Would it be Wrong...?

to send flowers or a card to an X%26#039;s parents funeral?





My X husband%26#039;s dad died and, although his son and wife were wicked evil beasties, he was always really decent and straight up. I feel bad for his grandchildren (none of which are mine-his son and I didnt have any together thankfully!)and I know that he was the one that kept everyone sane. Would it be wrong to express this in any way?

Would it be Wrong...?
I would say in times like these all the petty and small things don%26#039;t seem to matter as much. I would say it is ok to send flowers or a card. Good luck and I am sorry for your loss.
Reply:Its not your family any more. If you really don%26#039;t have any connection with them, then I%26#039;d just leave it alone.


If you really feel you must send flowers, then do it anonymously, with a card signed %26quot;a friend.%26quot;
Reply:I would have to say no, it would be ok to send flowers to the funeral. I know your ex might slightly take it a different way then you are sending them as....but i don%26#039;t know what else to say.Good luck, and if you decide to send the flowers; I would write a little note inside the card something saying that ______(his father%26#039;s name)____ was always a good guy. You will always be remembered by me. Thanks for keeping everyone sane, and always being straight-forward and honest with me.
Reply:No, it would not be wrong. It would be really nice. And if you are involved with someone now, maybe you can get them to sign the card with you so your ex won%26#039;t try to read more into it than what is really there. Otherwise, I would not worry about it. Do what you think is right.
Reply:Do either, it%26#039;s not wrong at all.
Reply:Of course no. You are so kind, do it!
Reply:I think it would be very nice of you. I also think it speaks well of your character not to hold it against him and the rest of his family for what your ex and his mom did to you. Just be careful of the wording on the card and you should be fine.
Reply:Send condolances anyway, for your own peace of mind
Reply:I don%26#039;t think it would be wrong, but if you want to express your sorrow for your ex father in law, perhaps doing it in private once the funeral procession is over is best. If your exhusband and your exmother in law are as bad as you say they were, they will probably make a dramatic scene, and assume that you just want to cause problems in their time of need, when in reality, you want to express your sorrow for the loss of a wonderful man.
Reply:Showing your respect for a man that you loved is never wrong, you don%26#039;t say if you are married or with someone now, if you are then tell them that you intend to send flowers because this man was good to you and you respected him in life, I can%26#039;t see that being wrong at all.
Reply:of course not, u mite not want to say it at the funeral but at the wake would be fine or just at the sitting up
Reply:I think you should reveal how you feel.
Reply:Never wrong to send flowers or a card. It%26#039;s done in the memory of the deceased. Not for the family%26#039;s benefit.
Reply:You know, I%26#039;d wait 2 months, go to the grave, and plant flowers anonymously, then cry it out, say goodbye, walk away.





Flowers or card to the funeral will turn into What the *** is SHE doing here. Not your fault, you are being nice. they might be going through estate issues, all sorts of things. your X might pick up (Wrongly?) that this is your chance to want to see him again.





I%26#039;d just do it privately.
Reply:You need to acknowledge it that would be the kindest thing to do. He is feeling horrible and anyone who lets him know they are thinking of him would be very gracious. Too bad if anyone gets mad you were related to that man at one point. Think of your ex right now and his pain. Nobody else.
Reply:No. It will be fine to send card and flowers.
Reply:There is absolutely nothing wrong with sending flowers. In fact, doing so shows that you are a good person, regardless of how things turned out with your ex.
Reply:l think if u new your xs dad and had a fear amount to do with him then i think u should send a card wishing the family all the best at least they will know that a friend of the family is thinking of them in there time of grief
Reply:I think if you feel that you should send flowers then you should. It would be a wonderful expression of the love and respect you felt for this man. On the backside of this, think how it will make the %26quot;beasties%26quot; feel. It will really annoy them although I know this is not why you would be sending them. I%26#039;m sorry for your loss.
Reply:I think it is a lovely gesture to show your respect to a man that was a good person. I do not think it is wrong at all and if it makes you happy - do it.



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