Co worker's brother died. Should I attend visitation? Should I take something?

I work as a teacher and go into the students%26#039; regular classrooms to provide a special service to them for about 25 minutes (for each classroom). We have a new teacher this year whose brother died. Because of Spring Break, I just found out that the visitation is tonight, funeral tomorrow. I have a 3 year old and with the short notice, a babysitter is out of the question. Should I attend the visitation? the funeral? Should I take something (the family asked for donations instead of flowers)? Do I take it to the visitation or the funeral (I have never been to the home of the coworker). Please help quickly - I don%26#039;t know what to do.





Thanks in advance.

Co worker%26#039;s brother died. Should I attend visitation? Should I take something?
If you can%26#039;t get a baby sitter send a card if you want to donate you can include a check made out to who they want the donations to go to. If you are not close to the teacher or her brother it%26#039;s OK not to go, but it%26#039;s also a thoughtful thing to go to either or both visitation/funeral.





If you want to take something it should be to the visitation.





Edit: Funerals %26amp; visitations are for anyone who wants to go. My friends brother died last month and 30 co-workers showed up. The family was very touched by so many coming. But you shouldn%26#039;t feel obligated.
Reply:Good decision. I miss read the part about you having to take your child and thought you could get a sitter.





We took our 4yo to grandma%26#039;s visitation and he didn%26#039;t have a problem. But then he was prepared for what was happening - it wasn%26#039;t sudden. Preparation is key when involving little ones. Report It

Reply:I think that it would definately be appropriate to attend the visitation, but probably not the funeral. A small donation to whichever charity the family requested would also be nice.
Reply:If I were you I would go...make a donation to.
Reply:If I were you, I would make a donation to the charity they wanted people to donate to and then let the coworker know you did that (if the charity or funeral home doesn%26#039;t do it for you). Also, a nice card for your coworker expressing your condolences would be appropriate (on your return to work).
Reply:I think it depends if you are close or not. If you do not have a close relationship (just co-workers not really friends), I would send a nice card and maybe a memorial. When you see her again be sure to let her know that you were thinking of her and her family and that you are there if she needs anything or anyone.
Reply:Give him a card and that should be fine. Funerals are for family and friends only. Your neither.



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