Do you think I am wrong about this?

This question may be a little long, but i need some help here...I have been married for 14 years. and for the first 9 years, it was great.My marriage still is, the problem is My MIL %26quot;Mother In law%26quot; and i just can%26#039;t seem to get along anymore. I always helped her clean and would buy her things, etc...I was So Good to Her but 5 years ago, my brother was in a work related accident and was killed, at his funeral, she sent flowers from a business she had already closed, and the pastor had made a comment at the funeral during his speach that he had never seen such a close loving family. well she commented to me just a few hours after the funeral the pastor didn%26#039;t know her family and that we weren%26#039;t as close as her family. Ok just a 2 months after my brother passed, my Dad found out he had Renal Cell Cancer and he passed away almost six months to the day after my brother. I was devistated. She had made comments that from my loss i was trying to get attention, and i swear to you I wasn%26#039;t.

Do you think I am wrong about this?
Sorry for your loss. I don%26#039;t blame you for not wanting to see her. She is jealous of you and your relationship with her son. She puts you down to feel better about herself which makes her a bully. She does this to you due to her own insecurities, not fair but you are stuck with it. It will obviously affect u and your husband which must be tough and im sure you have talked to him about it. Your husband knows that what she said to you was unaceptable and he must find the situation tough. If I was you I would put her out of your mind for now and concentrate on what really matters, u and your husband. Please don%26#039;t let this nasty woman destroy what you have with him. Maybe in the future you could write her a letter to explain how you feel, it might not make her see your point of view, but it will make you feel better.
Reply:your right on a 100% because how would your mother in law know what your going though you just lost 2 important people in your life that%26#039;s what you should be going through
Reply:at some point your husband needs to step in and let his mother know that what she%26#039;s doing is not good for their relationship. while she is still his mother, you are his wife and he needs to let her know that her actions are not ok. if he can%26#039;t do that then you need to let him know that some counseling is in order for the two of you to stay together. you have to stress to him how important this is to you and that if he can%26#039;t understand that then the two of you might not make it.
Reply:I do not feel that you are wrong in being upset about this I think that if you feel she is the type of person that you can talk to that you may want to talk to her openly about how she is making you feel in some way she may not realize that she is hurting you with all of her comments if you had been close in the past then it may be the only way to open her up to the way she has been treating you but to say nothing will hurt you more in the long run and it will just keep eating you up inside sorry so long winded but I myself have a situation in which we now have the in laws living with us due to a death in our family and no how you feel ( mil ) and i were close now constantly argue and when we are able to talk it does help for the moment try and be friends again if you can be but if not atleast she will no where you are coming from good luck and i hope this helps you...
Reply:Resolution would be better than staying away from her at this point. Would u consider writing her a letter telling her how u feel. If she%26#039;s still negative toward u and unwilling to work things out, THENNNN try to limit your interactions with her. Your husband should be coming to ur defense on this one!
Reply:She has no right to tell you how to feel about your losses. I recently lost my younger sister and my grandfather who raised me and if anyone were to tell me to get over it, or that I don%26#039;t have the right to feel how I do, I%26#039;d probably act the same way. I don%26#039;t understand why she would treat you so badly. Maybe, have your husband talk to his mother. Have him tell her how important you are to him, and how much he loves you.. and that because you are his wife she must respect you. She doesn%26#039;t have to like you or be your friend, but she must show you respect.
Reply:I%26#039;m so sorry for your losses..... *hugs*





As for your so called MIL, tell her to stick it where the sun don%26#039;t shine.





And as for you, keep your head up high and don%26#039;t let anyone tell you how to grieve. Try to spend some time talking to people about how they handled it. Good Luck to you!





PS You are 1000000% RIGHT in my book. :)
Reply:stay away from her.



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