In laws>>how should i handle this?

ok me and my mother in law has been best friends for the past 7 years..her and my father in law are always talking about how bad the other daughter in laws are{other three are all sisters},but i don%26#039;t try to compete with any of the others%26gt;anyway when my mom died they did not come to her funeral or send flowers or anything and the other daughter in laws mother died they went to the funeral home,sent flowers and had the family over for food.this all happened in 2 weeks time.i want them to know i am hurt but don%26#039;t know how to go about telling them..any advice anyone can give me will be thankful...i have been in this family over 20 years%26gt;%26gt;

In laws%26gt;%26gt;how should i handle this?
i would say just go about life as normal and every now and then give a little innuendo but be subtle,they will soon get the hint and maybe think about it.otherwise i would say they are the ones who are waking up in the night with a bad conscience not you xxxxxx
Reply:How do you know shes really your best friend? How do you know when youre not there and another sister in law is she isnt talking bad about you to them? She might be talking bad about all of you and she pretends to be a friend to get information from you. Im not saying she is but its a possibility. Sounds like she thinks more of them than you. A friend would have been there and been supportive of you. Even a regular friend let alone a best friend. I wouldnt say anything I just wouldnt trust her.
Reply:Apparently you are not as good friends as you thought or she would have came to your moms funeral and been supportive
Reply:it seem to me they love you as their own daughter and the reason they didnt go is b/c they couldnt dare see you hurt for they will hurt for you





it seems you have a close relationship with with them so i would just have a talk with them and i am sure they will talk to you and they may have a reason and you want know til you ask for it sounds you have a closeness that so many pwople desire with their in laws





i am sorry to hear about your mom death just remember she loved you and she is watching over you and you still have a family that loves you and will help you thru this if only you give them a chance i wish you the best in years to come
Reply:I%26#039;m afraid you are going to have to ignore it. I have no idea why these people would treat you so badly, but it sounds like you are seeing some true colors. Be the bigger person, and let it go. I%26#039;m sorry for the loss of your mother.
Reply:what you are doing is keeping up something you do not want to be. stop right now i am sorry that your mum died and stuff and they didnt%26#039; do the same things but you must not mention this to them it would be fun for them to beable to talk about you. i am not saying that they are talking about you or the motherinlaw but they all could be so please just let it die and forget it. its not important you will be in this family for long more times and it needs not to be something like this. take my advice and bury this mess and forgot forgive. take care.



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