One of the girls at work had a son who died a few days ago.?

Nobody even thought to send flowers or a card to the funeral home until I came in after 2 days off and bought a card for everyone to sign. Now we are taking up a collection and sending flowers to her home. Is there anything else we should be doing besides just being there for her. Her husband was Muslim, as well as her children and she%26#039;s Catholic.

One of the girls at work had a son who died a few days ago.?
If you%26#039;re not in their religious realm, just leave religion out of it. Give support as a friend. If you sincerely want to help, just asks what she needs. No one would know that better than her.
Reply:Simply let her know you care, and you%26#039;re there if she needs you.
Reply:Just be a friend and a good listener.
Reply:You are doing more than enough. Do not try and second guess peoples religious beliefs, if you screw it up it can be a nightmare. Seems like you have done everything right to me.
Reply:Just being there and reminding her of that will be most helpful
Reply:just be there for her. she may not want to talk about it right away, so don%26#039;t push.
Reply:Whether you%26#039;re a believer or not, sit with her and encourage her to seek God for spiritual strength. You may not understand it, but she%26#039;ll appreciate your effort. Sometimes when we%26#039;re going through intense grief, it makes a difference when someone is just there for us and lets us talk it out, or cry on our shoulder. Thank you for caring.
Reply:Being practical can be very helpful.





You may want to bring prepared food for the family for a few evenings for dinner. Even something simple that can be reheated is really helpful, especially since they have other kids to feed. A grieving family still has to eat- and they aren%26#039;t likely to ask you for that sort of help. It was a kind gesture when my neighbors brought food when my aunt passed.
Reply:I just lost my father and the one thing I found that helped my mom and sisters is people making food. Have the people in your office find if anyone is making them meals or you can get them food or meals. That is the biggest thing you can do...The last thing they want to do is worry about food....
Reply:When my daughter died, one lady was thoughtful enough to bring TON%26#039;s of paper goods. Paper plates, plastic utensils, tiolet paper, paper towels, napkins.





She said she knew people would be bringing a lot of food and that I would not feel like shopping or doing dishes...and she was right. It made things a whole lot easier.





As far as religions...I think grief is universal, so don%26#039;t worry so much about that.





Covered dishes are nice, so she won%26#039;t have to worry about cooking. My apartment building paid for a maid to come in and do a deep clean so it would look nice with all of the influx of visitors. Babysitting is welcome, but sometimes it%26#039;s neccssary to babysit there in front of mom. She needs the break, but after the loss of a child, she may want to cling to the children as well....I know I sure did.





Don%26#039;t worry about saying the right thing...there is no right thing to say. Also, don%26#039;t be suprised if she puts up a brave front right now. The full impact of my grief did not hit till 6 months later, and every professional I spoke to said that is almost very typical. So she may need you more a few months down the road than she does right now.
Reply:You are doing the right thing by sending a card. The collection and flowers are definitely big things to do for a co-worker. You should feel good that you put these things in motion. Your co-workers should feel like heels.





But seriously I would avoid religious references because its a workplace. Just stick to what you are doing.
Reply:whatever you do it wont bring back her son.





i think uve done what u can. very nice of u.
Reply:In a case like this, I think a card and flowers is appropriate. Nothing specifically Catholic or Muslim is necessary. Just caring and support...



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