Appropriate gift for best friend whose brother was murdered?

I am sending my best friend something. Her brother was murdered on Sunday and the funeral is next Monday. I thought about sending flowers for the service, but then it concerns me that those really aren%26#039;t for her. I considered sending a live plant, but that seems a little cheap. She%26#039;s my best friend in the whole world and I want to be there with her but I can%26#039;t. What can I do/send? Serious answers only please.

Appropriate gift for best friend whose brother was murdered?
your sincerest heart felt thoughts and feelings....


and little tree for to plant in her brother%26#039;s memory...
Reply:I would look for something nice in memory of him, maybe a charm with %26quot;in memory of (name)....%26quot; maybe on the back of a cross or whatever would suit her, so she could feel as if he was with her at all times. I think that would be a nice personal gift from a friend.
Reply:A donation to a charity in his name. Perhaps there is a cause he felt strongly about that you can contribute to. A plant is a nice idea. Another idea would be to plant a tree in his honor.
Reply:A phone call or letter.
Reply:flowers or a bouquet
Reply:Don%26#039;t send a gift. There is nothing in the world that you could give her to make her feel better. Send a personal note, not a prewritten card, expressing your sympathy for her loss and that you will be there for anything she needs. You could make a donation to something in his name.
Reply:1. Her brother just died. Contribute flowers to her family, along with others who will.





2. You give her a personal card from, expressing your condolences, and another that includes the whole family.





3. You go to the showing, if there is one, and be a supportive friend to her and her family.





4. You go to the funeral and be a supportive friend to her and her family.





5. Kindness in your actions goes a long way, when words are hard to find. They%26#039;ll be happy you attended during this difficult time.
Reply:A book about coping with loss, faith, things like that. Inscribe the inside cover with a personal note
Reply:Have you thought about a sympathy plaque with a nice poem and her brothers picture on it? That is so tragic- I am sorry to hear that. My condolences.
Reply:If you can%26#039;t be with her in person, try a nice, long phone call where she can feel safe to cry, scream, whatever. Sometimes people hold that in for the rest of their family, to try and be the strong one. Having your ear might be best gift you can give her.





If her brother was associated with a charity, you could donate in his name.





A plant might seem impersonal but trust me, getting anything during a tough time like she%26#039;s facing, is appreciated. Just don%26#039;t forget to do the personal touch with a long call, long email, long letter, nice card, etc.
Reply:I agree with knock knock%26#039;s tree answer, and I would add that you could offer to plant it with her in a special public place that her brother loved, along with a small memorial plaque commemmorating him. It is appropriate as well to have a candle lit in your name for his memory at the service- many funeral homes let you go on-line now to make a statement that way, if you cannot be there.





My sympathy for your friend%26#039;s loss.
Reply:No present in the world will be any better than simply your support and love. Unless you can bring back the dead, any present you could think of may just serve to cheapen the emotional context of it all.





Write her a letter.





All the best.
Reply:No need to send her a gift. It won%26#039;t make her feel better. Give her a call and talk to her. Let her pour her gried on you and listen with sympathy. That would be the greatest gift for her.
Reply:your companionship and maybe a meals on wheels deal for about a week or so-- there are services that will cook your dinner for you.. look in the yellow pages under catering services....
Reply:A letter ...in your own handwriting....telling her how much you care about her and how sorry you are for her loss.





She%26#039;ll treasure it, I promise.
Reply:Something that she enjoys to take her mind off the pain. Also you could write her a nice letter using goofy and comforting words. As an example you could write her a simple poetic line like %26quot;Bad Poetry, Oh Noetry%26quot;. You can always email her lots if she has a computer. If she likes to read, or knit or sew or build bikes get her something meaningful!
Reply:I would send a tree that way she can plant it somewhere special and watch it grow and let his memory live on and grow with the tree. Get a really pretty one that blooms like a double blossom cherry tree, flowering dogwood, redwood or cedar trees are nice as well. One of my favorites is the weeping snow cherry tree. Sorry for your loss hope this helps.
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