Proper ettiquette for thanking pallbearers?

I%26#039;m working on thank you notes to people who sent flowers to my mother%26#039;s funeral and was wondering what I should do for the pallbearers. This is my first time doing this, so I%26#039;m completely confused. I don%26#039;t know the pallbearers very well because they were cousins of my mother and I have only met them a couple times. Do I send a card? A gift? What do I say in the note? I would have my dad do it, but he%26#039;s a wreck and unable to do much of anything right now.

Proper ettiquette for thanking pallbearers?
I think a simple thank you note would be appropriate. I am very sorry for your loss.
Reply:A simple thank you note is fine.
Reply:A thoughtful thank you card with some personal notes for them. That is sufficient. I am sure they understand that you appreciated their help during a hardtime. I%26#039;ll keep you in my prayers.
Reply:I%26#039;m really sorry to hear about your mom passing away.





My personal opinion is that a note of sincere thanks is all that is needed. I found this site with some suggestions. Here is a little of whats on the site:





%26quot;No longer are personal letters expected by relatives, friends and acquaintances in return for expressions of sympathy. In most cases a signed acknowledgment or thank you card is sufficient to say %26quot;thanks%26quot; for flowers, mass cards, charitable donations and personal services.%26quot;





%26quot;Acknowledgments should be sent within two weeks following the funeral or memorial service. If a more personal touch is desired, then a few words can be written on the card with reference to the flowers sent, donation made or services rendered. These words can often make the recipient feel that your thanks are as personal as if they were expressed verbally.%26quot;








They give an example of what to write in a card to a pallbearer too:





%26quot;PALLBEARERS: Include a message of thanks for their time and service rendered.





Dear Steve,





Thank you for your kindness in acting as a pallbearer for our father. We asked you because you were one of his closest friends.%26quot;








Hope this helps.
Reply:Just a thank you note is appropriate. Write something like: %26quot;Thank you so very much for the care and concern you have shown through our loss. Your assistance during this troubled time was most appreciated.%26quot;





My condolences on your loss.
Reply:a simple THANK YOU card is more then most people do---so sorry about your mother....



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