What does this dream mean?

Last September, my oldest friend commited suicide. Our age was the same (she was 6 mos older than me) and this happened when we were both 25. There was no note, no closure for me etc. Her funeral was open casket, and she was later cremated.


I keep having dreams about her. One she was talking to me, like nothing happened (we were talking about what kind of car I should buy), the other happened last night and it really affected me.


I saw her on the autopsy table, her eyes were open and it looked as if she was looking at me, and she was able to see me (she didn't have "dead eyes"). Then I was at her funeral again, and in this dream, she was too tall for the casket, so they had to bend her legs a little bit at the knee, and she was buried in an old church yard next to her mother (her mother in real life died when we were only 8, and she was cremated as well). In my dream, I left flowers for her, and all I could do to keep it together was lay on her grave to be near her.

What does this dream mean?
it does sound as if she is trying to communicate with you. but it could be just memories that you have of her or what you want to actually happen.
Reply:I agree with the people above that she is most likely not trying to communicate with you.I believe since it was a suicide she was technically not ripped away from the earth meaning she knew she was going to die which means she would have gotten all her messages out beforehand (but its possible that one who commits suicide didn't get to let everyone know how much they love them).





I believe if she was trying to communicate to you she would keep coming to you in you dreams and having much conversations of meaning and probably wouldn't go away and also like others said feelings or whispers.You would get some feeling of certainty that she is trying to communicate with you.





I think the dream means you have had much trouble trouble trying to cope and you bottled the feelings up but unfortunately the the feelings are still festering inside of you. I don't blame you...losing a friend to suidicide must be a terrible thing to go through and I'm sorry for your loss.This is a lot to take in and I admire you for this. You don't need any help b/c its not like you had dreams of her like this the majority of the time since she died its that the feelings of missing her has come back. Perhaps in your waking life something little triggered a memory of her.There is no right or wrong answer of what you should do but talking to someone instead of bottling your emotions helps a lot.A suicide let alone a friend dying is a lot to take in.
Reply:i dont think she is trying to communicate with you if that were so, you would hear ghostly voices. this dream means you want to see her again and you miss her deeply. there is nothing wrong with that except the fact of deep depression and sorrow.
Reply:I dont think so you just miss her lots. I dont believe in that stuff.
Reply:Sweetie, I think you were traumatized and you need help.


You should seek professional help about these dreams. I am not saying that you are crazy or you need to forget about her, just that this isn't healthy. I know how it feels to lose someone you love, but the best thing to do is thank God for the time we had with them and laugh about the good times and just remember them. Anything beyond that, as bad as it sounds, move on.





I am sorry for your lost.


At least she can be with her mother again.
Reply:Uhmm... She could be... maybe it wasn't suicide... maybe it was something different and she needs your help.... or maybe you just really miss her.... When my father died... I also had no closure.... And for the LONGEST time afterwards I had dreams about him.... Like him being alive when we thought he was dead.... and just weird stuff.... And I think it's just because I didn't have closure to his death, so to my head, I thought he was still alive, just not with me right now.... I dunno... I hope this makes sense to you....





I just remember that I missed him alot and I regret not trying to find a way for closure sooner because it made it all the much harder to get over... seeing as how you knew her for so long, I would think it would be somewhat the same.... I hope this helps and I'm truly sorry for your loss...



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