Need major friend advice!!! Please help! Please read!?

My best friend's grandfather just died of cancer on Sunday. She left school early on Monday to fly out to Wisconsin for the funeral. She didn't know about the death until the secretary of the school came into class and told her that her mom was picking her up. She called me on Monday night and explained (even though after I learned that she left school early and she was supposed to attend a chorus practice that afternoon I knew that her grandfather had died) everything. I offered to get all her homework for that week and she said that would be great. We talked on the phone some more and I tried to cheer her up... she said that she felt better just talking to me. But I want to do something else for her and her family! She's coming back late on Friday night. I was planning to drop off her homework, some homemade baked choclate chip cookies(her favorite), and some flowers. Would that be okay? If it helps, I'm only thirteen. Is giving flowers too much? And what flowers should I get her??!

Need major friend advice!!! Please help! Please read!?
Aww that sounds like a really sweet idea. Yes bring her homework, cookies, and flowers (springy flowers-brightly colored) and bring her favorite movie or a funny one that you can plop down on the couch and watch with her while you eat the cookies. It will help take her mind off things and the movie will make her laugh.
Reply:i believe that you must be a abutment for her. very good for her would be to be with her many hours, you can buy tulips or Marguerite. congratulations because you love her friend!


now is the time to show your love and what is she for you! the idea with cake is very good! good luck!
Reply:You are a very sweet and thoughtful girl of 13 and I wish I had a friend like you. Yes, you are doing fine. Your best friend will love you for it. Good luck.
Reply:That sounds really nice. My dad passed away last June and I would have welcomed something like that from my friends. Flowers are good, but I really like plants. You can have them for a long time if you take care of them while the flowers will be gone in a week. You sound like a good friend.
Reply:You are truly a good friend, homemade cookies her homework and some flowers that sounds perfect. I know that the adults in your life have to be bursting with pride that you have turned out so well. I know your friend will appreciate it. You are terrific!! Good job. You are showing empathy and compassion for a friend. If you dont understand those words please look them up - your behavior is a classic example of both - you are a very good kid. Good luck -k-
Reply:wow you seem like a very nice friend... its always hard to cheer someone up when a loved one has passed away.... time seems to be the best medicine... but wat you have planned will surely make her feel a little better... i think if u want to giver her flowers u should give her daisies i dunno those seem like happy flower... and yea... i hope ur friend feels better... wat she really needs now if someone to be there for her... just someone who will listen... the best to both of you... God bless
Reply:You are the best friend that she can ever have, sweetie. I think you are very thoughtful, caring, and considerated as a person in society and as well as a bestfriend in friendship. It's very hard to find someone like you now a day. Your friend is very lucky to have you in a moment of time like this. As for gifts and flowers, I think both her and her family would be deeply moved by your noble gesture as well as your thought and feeling for them. So, don't be to fuss on what types of flowers you have to bring as long as it's not roses, because roses symbolize love and romance.





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Reply:you are a really good friend stay like that
Reply:you are so thoughtful what a beautiful thing to do
Reply:That sounds like a wonderful idea. When my children's father died, the high school sent flowers. I don't think it matters what kind. They were a mixed bunch, astoemerillas and others, but we really appreciated them. It was the kindness more than the flowers that touched my heart.
Reply:you seem like a great friend. I'm sure you just caring would help. i would get yellow roses they are symbolic of friendship and happiness. They should put a smile on her face
Reply:hmmm....death is too hard for her to go through alone so yes give her the items but also let her know that you will be there for her and that you love her as a best friend and everything will be fine .... also she might need some time away from her family befor she can talk to you so invite her to a sleep over or something and talk about it and make sure she is ok before you drop it...and i am 14 so dont think it wont work because i am not young enough to understand because i am not and dont think i and not old enough because my grandfather and aunt, in whom i was extremely close too,died within 3 days of each other so i know what she was going through and i know what i wanted from my friends so just let her know you love her and you are there ,a dry shoulder for her to get wet , and help her through. that is all people want from a friend at a time like that


and about the flowers umm....i think that dasies or tulips or really smaIl flowers willbe good!
Reply:Flowers are a wonderful idea! Also you might want to write her a letter about how you are always there for her, or maybe some quotes or uplifting bible verses. Daisies or daffidils are good ideas for flowers because they are apring flowers which represent growing and rebirth
Reply:You are so sweet, o.k. I think a nice card saying I'm here for you when you need me and cookies would be nice. I would save the flowers for later.


Good luck!
Reply:I think the helping with her homework assignments is great. Making the cookies is great, too. I am sure the flowers would be appreciated, too. Most of all, the family will definitely appreciate your caring and sympathy. It sounds like you are a very good friend.
Reply:I think flowers are a great idea. Any kind will probably be much appreciated. I don't think it's too much at all. If I were in her shoes, I would feel really lucky to have a friend just get my homework, much less bring my homemade cookies and flowers. It's always the thought that counts.
Reply:You are soooo....... compassionate and considerate! She will surely love to receive gifts such as roses, chocolates, etc. Keep it up!
Reply:After such a family situation, a good thing to do is to bring a meal over, or to help with a chore or such. Can you offer to babysit the younger kids if they have them? There is nothing wrong with flowers, but houses tend to get overloaded with them at this time, and one kinda blurrs into the next. Perhaps a plant? Maybe a small ornamental tree? But the best thing to do right now is to DO something, and don't ask what can be done, just offer to do it...if you ask, they'll most likely say nothing is needed, etc, but if you hand them a card, saying you'll be willing to watch the kids, or bring over a desert or meal, maybe even wash their car? I don't know, just trying to think of something to DO for the family, that goes over so well! Good luck!!



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