Sympathy Gift...but not death-related?

My boyfriend's sister's husband had an accident involving some sort of head trauma a few days ago. He survived, but there is damage; how extensive and how permanent is unknown yet, but it will be a long road to recovery.





My boyfriend is going down to visit this weekend. He felt it would be better to feel things out for now and then have me come down another weekend, which is fine. But I do want to send something. What can I send? A card I guess. But what else. Flowers is weird. I looked at 1800flowers and the "Get Well" gift baskets are like teas and other things and obviously directed at the sick person. The funeral stuff is like fruit and cheese and cookies. That seems oddly celebratory, but maybe that's because funeral's are supposed to have a dimension of honoring the person who died.





Any ideas? I am considering making a meal of some kind and sending it with my boyfriend, but I don't really cook.

Sympathy Gift...but not death-related?
I think a meal or anything that will lessen the load for them as they deal with this would be nice-


If you don't cook you could try Omahasteaks.com they have prepared meals you can send
Reply:Make a nice pot of soup and send.
Reply:just send a nice card and do the best you can to call your boyfriend and just listen to him, let him vent.
Reply:Since you don't cook perhaps you could send a gift card to a restaurant that is in her area. Or you could offer to help her with something that she will not have time for like grocery shop for her when you get there. You can also buy deli things from the grocery for her fridge to help when she get home from the hospital and then she won't have to cook either. You can also order her a meal like Olive Garden with your credit card and have your boyfreind pick it up.


I think it is hard to say what to do since we don't know how well you know her or her husband but food is a good choice.
Reply:Check out the restaurant listing for the area they are in and possibly have a nice meal prepared and delivered to them or even hire someone to come in and cook or clean or do laundry for them. Who ever the care giver is going to be is going to have their hands full and would probably appreciate any help with the day to day stuff. Plus send the card. Best wishes for you boyfriend's sister's husband and their entire family. I hope he does well.
Reply:A "Get Well Card" is the most appropriate and all that is necessary, Sign it.......................(your first and last name) and under your name write ( your boyfriend's first name, ex: Jim's Friend )
Reply:There are cards that say things like "My thoughts are with you", "I'm here if you need me", etc. Food at funerals is usually there as munchies for the guests, or real food so the bereaved don't have to think or work beyond heating a casserole. Food is also nice for people who may be spending a lot of time visiting the hospital and traveling to and from it, or even caring for someone at home. Maybe you know someone who could cook for you in return for a favor from you? Also, most grocery stores have half-decent prepared food sections now. (Often in the deli case.) You could put togther a few things from there and send it on. It's a very nice thought, and everyone I know would appreciate it
Reply:Something they can freeze, or high quality delivered food (pizza doesn't count :) !)





I would think a balnk card, saying that you're sorry to hear of the accident, and that your thoughts are with them - If you want to offer - then add something like - If you need anything, at all, don't hesitate to call - and that you'll see them soon.
Reply:i'd skip the card unless you find just the right saying this is a touchy situation i'd get just a blank and say something like you're praying for his recovery and he's in your thoughts there is nothing wrong with sending flowers or a plant BUT if he's in ICU or CCU they won't let him have it the food is a good idea cookies travel pretty well . if you make something how about a pot of chili they can use then or freeze.


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