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Problem is I am the guy and its my mom....Treats my wife like dirt, and my wife has been nothing but nice...called me up 8 AM the day after my wifes dad's funeral got mad at me asking to exactly describe the flowers she sent and what a "nice" gesture it was...





Anyhow we live 5 minutes from each other and my wifes family is 6 hrs away...this year I am spending T-giving and Xmas away....My mom says I am wrong and has said some hurtful and nasty things about my wifes family...I am 35 years old...what do I tell her? if I stand up to her, she will probably be even more vindictive but I hate giving in

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Whatever you do don't give in. You are 35, it is time to act like the adult man you are. When you got married, your wife became the #1 woman in your life and she can't handle it. She sounds like a controlling woman. Don't feed into it. She can only be vindictive as long as she knows it affects you. Once she sees that you don't care, she will either disown you, or stop. If she disowns you, it is because she is selfish and has nothing to do with you.
Reply:it is not wrong for you to do what you want to do. this year, i am staying home for Tgiving and Xmas. if my parents and in laws want to see me or my family, they know where i live.
Reply:I've got to agree with the first two answers. Your wife is being nice to her, and she's responding by being a self centered b****. She's jealous of the woman who took you away. She's going to be nasty and vindictive because she knows it works on you. It will be hard, but just don't let her get to you. Just be kind to her when you see her, but ignore the meanness. If she sees it isn't working, hopefully, she'll stop.
Reply:Get a spine...it's hard to have to choose between your wife and mother, but your mother, in my opinion, is making it easy by being a *****!!! Tell her you're going, and that's that!!!
Reply:I understand what your going through. My husbands family does not like me either. I have done nothing but nice and good things for them. I have tried to be a wonderful daughter-in-law. I have been married to my hubby for 13 years now. I am no closer to them than I was the first day we all met. My husband has taken a stand for me years ago. I can not even put flowers on my husbands mothers grave from our family, (hubbies own mother) His family went and took them off and added their own. I made them with my own hands to make my husband happy, and to help the family to realize that I am not the monster they make me out to be. Unfortunately to no avail. I will not be spending and holidays with any of them either. My husbands does not want to either. I know this hurts him, but I am not the culprit that does not except them. We will spend it with my loving family, where they love my husband just like they love me. I hope you follow in our footsteps and take a stand for your wife. If this is the way they want to be, then let them be. Don't give in. Your wife has to come first in your life. She is the other half of you. Best of luck. Try to have happy holidays.



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