Does anyone else think Americans have developed a morbid interest?

In death sites? I think it's eerie that people go to the places where people were murdered or died in a car accident etc and start putting up flowers, stuffed toys,crosses,candles, pictures and so on. If some one in my family died in a violent way I would not want the place it happened decorated like a shrine. I would not want tribute paid in a place that held horrid memories, or even evil intent (during someones last breath) It would be more appropriate to send them to the funeral. I think many people are simply selfishly involved with perhaps getting seen(or the so called tribute they left being seen) on T.V. Anyway. I think it's inappropriate. What do you think? There has to be a better way to handle it. When Ashley Pond and Miranda Gaddis were murdered Ward Weavers fence was decorated like a Holiday. The whole time he was giving T.V. interviews on his porch sitting on a box he put their bodies in before he buried them in his backyard. Those flowers did not belong there!!!

Does anyone else think Americans have developed a morbid interest?
Wow it looks like your getting heat for this question. I get what your saying. Like it was better to put flowers at the Palace for Princess Di than it would have been to put them by the tunnel. She didn't live in the tunnel. Her memory would be better served by honoring her at the palace. I get it. I hear you, and I agree. Vigils have their place but, sometimes folks should think about the place they are memorializing. Because of the families. I think you have had some experience with a loved one dying violently and having your privacy invaded......just a guess.
Reply:People do odd things to make themselves feel better.





Frankly, if sticking a bunch of flowers and candles at a street corner helps someone get over a family member or friends death, so be it.





Who am I to judge.





I think you might be confusing two issues. Just because they have flowers and vigils at the corners that the said person died at, does not mean that they were not given a proper burial and that flowers are not there or that they never visit it. Funerals are strictly personal affairs for immediate friends and family. Shrines at corners allow the entire community to see what has happened and to give their condolences.





Also, of course it is selfish. It's grief. Grief is the selfishness of refusing to let someone go despite the fact that they are dead and gone and are never coming back.





Lastly, many people will do anything to be on TV. Building a vigil for someone's death to me is definitely among the bottom of the list of deserving criticism.
Reply:in the case of roadside memorials i think it is partially to get drivers to think twice and remember how potentially dangerous driving a vehicle can be.





really though i'm not that concerned. dead people are gone, it doesn't really matter what we do about it because they don't exist to take offense.
Reply:I don't know who the two girls are that you are referring to. The man who was sitting on the box he buried them in his backyard in must not have been arrested yet or he wouldn't have been sitting on a box giving an interview. If he was the murderer I can't think of why people would place flowers etc on his fence. People place flowers from the funeral at the sites of auto accidents here because that is the last place their loved one was physically on earth and for other reasons.



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