My best friends dad died...?

he died yesterday..and she hasnt come to me or our other best friend at all. she didnt even tell us. i realize she will need time, but we (me and my other best friend, her two closest friends) feel so helpless because we don't know what to do. i don't know what to say or anything. i know i need to be at the showing/funeral with her...but i was thinking about maybe putting together a little care pack and dropping it off? instead of talking about it? I was thinking maybe flowers and her favorite candy bar....one of those big 2 foot silly apology cards...what are your thoughts? we are 16...and not made of money either haha.





please pray for her and her family.


thanks!

My best friends dad died...?
I'll pray but yeah thats sad and U should gice her her fave candy bar, flowers, maybe a teddy bear, and maybe a note that says "sorry'' or something.
Reply:When I was 14, my best friends dad died. It was pretty hard for me too since I became close to him as well. I don't think it effected her immediately. I remember it was really tough for her being so young. Everyone deals with grief differently. I'm sure that she will open up to you and your other friends once she is ready to. Don't force it on her though. The care package that you are thinking about putting together will help her know that you do care about her and if she needs anything, you'll be there. You are very thoughtful and caring. I'm sure she will appreciate your support.





I will keep her and her family in my prayers.
Reply:When I was 16, my best friends mom died...and when we were 19, her dad died. I was always there with her, but I never really said anything. It is so hard to know what to say...you don't want to say the wrong thing and you don't want to just say nothing at all. I LOVE the care package idea. Get together some of her favorite candy, magazines/books, pop/drink, etc and make it light and fun. I would maybe just write her a little letter that lets her know you love her and when she is ready to talk, you will be there. Leave the care package on her porch...let her come to you when she is ready to talk. Let her know you care, but don't push right now. She is going to need a LOT of time and right now she is busy dealing with family, too. You are being an amazing friend making sure she is taken care of! They will be in our prayers.
Reply:I will pray for heer but i need her name please. And make her The card and get her fave flowers. In the card right something like " INSERT BFF'S NAME HERE, I know that times are rough right now and just know that God and I will always be here to hold your hand! ♥"


Talk to when she is ready











God bless her and her family!





♥
Reply:I'm sorry to hear about your friend's loss. Give her time to grieve in her own way. Just be available if she wants to talk about it. Your gift idea sounds good, but stick with a conservative sympathy card.
Reply:Bring something you know makes her smile would be real nice of you.


I know what it's like to be your friend, and it really does help to just have someone there. She probably won't want to talk about it for awhile, but just sitting there with her letting you know you care makes a world of difference.
Reply:go over to her place and stay by her side. if she asks u to leave don't be offensed and assure her that u're there if she needs anything.





may her dad RIP
Reply:My heart goes out to her and you! But remain calm and stand by her side if needed. Only bring it up if she wants to talk about it. There is not much you can say or do the only thing that will heal her is Time. She will come around when she is ready just don't put the pressure down. And yes flowers would be nice. Show her you care.....Good Luck and God bless!
Reply:Your friend needs you now. Please talk to her or just be there for her. She is going to experience many different feeling associated with grief so you and her other friends can show how much you care about her by being there for her now. My prayers are with you and your friend.
Reply:Those are really good ideas and will probably help her to realize that you guys are there for her. You're going to feel helpless because she's your friend and you want to help, and what you want to do won't cure her sadness, but it will definitely help. I will keep your friend and her family in my prayers!!
Reply:Your'e a good friend ..................
Reply:not a funny apology card for sure. but i would just go up to her and say I'm so sorry and give her a long hug. but i don't think she would be in the mood of something funny relating to her dads death, like an apology card. chocolate seems like a really good idea. maybe something like a really soft blanket would be nice. all things that can comfort her. she is going through a really tough time.
Reply:You should get her that gift pack but maybe wait for a acouple days or a week before giving it to her, losing someone is hard. Don't feel bad that she isn't talking to you just yet, she will, and you will most likely be invited to attend the funeral.
Reply:You and your other friend are too sweet.


Yes, when you lose someone sometimes it is hard to talk to anyone and when someone that you love loses someone its hard to find words to express your sympathy. The card and candy idea is a good one. It let's her know that her pain is felt outside of herself and that you two are there for her. Write a personal message in the card, and let her know that you will be there for her whenever she would like to talk.
Reply:I think you need to lay off the gifts and silly cards; this isn't something she'll be ready to smile about or even necessarily appreciate your efforts yet. For the next while, it'll probably be hard for her to even think about anything but her dad or herself or her mum. Try not to focus on yourself %26amp; keep it low-key.





If you want to be there for her, either phone her up or write her a letter, and let her know you're there for her whatever she needs. Remember, that might be being alone for a while, or it could be your company - don't resent her whichever it is.





I think it's great that you're concerned enough for her to ask for help, but remember that this is literally the most devastating thing that could happen to a young girl short of losing both her parents. Let her guide you in what to do - don't crowd her, but let her know you're there for her.
Reply:that would be nice


but when u do drop it off let her not that she can talk to u about anything
Reply:Kind, authentic words of sympathy and support, whether written or spoken, are more important and appreciated more than anything money can buy. Trust your heart, not your wallet.
Reply:Most people give food to the family of someone who has died, but you have something even BETTER to give ... go to your friend (together or separately) and just BE THERE to listen. Tell your friend you can not even imagine how bad things are right now, but that you will be there to do anything needed ... just sit and hold their hands or listen and say that you are very sorry this happened. And do tell them that you are praying for her and her family ... prayer means a lot to most newly bereaved people. DO NOT take flowers or the silly card, but do take a bunch of candy bars and share them, and then let your friend share some of the 'good times' she had with her dad, or even just cry ... I'll be praying for her, her family, and for you, for caring so much about your friend.
Reply:She is going to need time and space. Most of the next few weeks are going to be spent with her family and she wont have much time to be around you. Don't take it personally.





The flowers and candy bar are a nifty idea but skip the silly card. Trust me there is nothing useful about trying to do something silly for a friend who is grieving.





Good luck: sorry but I don't pray.
Reply:that is a really nice idea the care pack. Your a good friend and right now your friend needs her family but soon she will come to you. Just don't push her.
Reply:I'm really sorry about your friend's loss.


Yes, it will take time. Ask your friends what they think about a care package. If you already have, and they think it's a good idea, then go for it. It will let her know that she can talk you guys anytime.
Reply:the very best thing to do is get flowers and a banner with a very small card ... if you feel uncomfortable abt going there and you want to give your friend more room well have it sent there and you better do it soon... talk to your parents and both of you get together on this issue !
Reply:I lost my mom at 14, I was the same way with my girlfriends. Be there for her, Try not to say Im sorry to her when your her age and you have hundreds of people says Im sorry for your loss. you have no clue what to say when its said over and over to you. Be there for her let her know if she wants to talk your there no matter when it is. Try and spend time with her she will need moral support. Its nice to see you care so much, :)
Reply:you should just tell her you will pray for her and her family
Reply:You are a true friend. Just be there for her, make her smile and support her and her family. She will truly appreciate it.





I'll pray for her as well,
Reply:aww thats really sad...that care package sounds really nice of you. She will appreciate it a lot probably, becuz she will know you are thinking of her.and better yet, make a card youself instead of buying a generic one.
Reply:that would be nice with a card. if you or your mom has a small basket that something came in, put in some bath products for stress relief, with a candle. she will appreciate it and is very personal.



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