My Mom started dating my Dad's cousin 8 months after my Dad died. Is it normal for me to be as upset as I am??

The man she is now dating was never a part of my life, he never sent flowers to the funeral, and never sent a card. Now she wants us to welcome him with open arms. He%26#039;s divorced, and also has adult children- The situation makes me nervous, but I want her to be happy.

My Mom started dating my Dad%26#039;s cousin 8 months after my Dad died. Is it normal for me to be as upset as I am??
It is normal for you to be upset but it is also normal for her after 8 months to seek companionship. This isnt about you it is about her. I think you need to respect her decision as long as this man is not abusive. If you are upset talk to friends about it but dont lay a guilt trip on your mother, that would not be right.
Reply:You should tell her that it makes you uncomfortable - That said, you also need to tell her you want her to be happy. You can respect their relationship without agreeing about it.
Reply:its normal being upset, relax though because he is family
Reply:You are both right. It is common for those who lose a spouse to death to date and marry soon afterward. There is nothing wrong with this. There is also nothing wrong with dating a spous%26#039; cousin. They are not reletives or anything, just 2 people.


You are right... One mistake folks make is to expect their kids to just accept their new partners. It%26#039;s her choice to spend time with him, not yours. She should not expect you to warm up to someone just because she does.


The two of you need to respect each other%26#039;s decisions and not impose your thoughts on one another.
Reply:rexlax, see how it goes for the first month and if it goes smothly than thats thats! or if its bad tell ur mom u dont like him!
Reply:Well, it is a little odd and I think you have reason to be a little hesitant and suspicious as well as it just being a hard thing to deal with so soon after your father passing.


Let your Mom know your concerns and worries but then let her know you love her and support her.
Reply:It is normal, but she deserves a life too...I guess...try and be happy for her..it%26#039;s probably what your Dad would want...
Reply:that is sooo wrong, shame on ur mom.



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