Can you explain?

this awfull dream i had last night, i dreamed that i went to a funeral, it was a proper berial service with, prayers flowers, the vicor, people in mourning, but there was no coffin,

Can you explain?
Nightmares are usually the results of stress
Reply:If there was no coffin then it probably wasn%26#039;t a death you were dreaming about at all, in fact dreams usually work in opposite to what they mean. There will probably be a ceremony with a tale of happiness, people dressed up for an occasion with many guests. This could be a wedding, an engagement party or to the extreme of an official meeting of some description. Flowers can be a sign of sadness or happiness so this I think will be a happy occasion. As the months pass you may find that there is some truth behind your dream. Wait and see if there any occasion in relation to what you dreamed about.
Reply:This one is very easy to answer blue, nobody died!
Reply:Sometimes, for %26quot;proper%26quot; closure on something we feel we need to see the body or talk to a person one last time. Yet, life and circumstances do not always give us such an opportunity so we must pay our respects to what/who has passed away from our life without a concrete exchange.
Reply:It seems like you fear something which you cannot explain. Usually a funeral would show some kind of inner dread, that there was no coffin may mean that you dread/fear something, but don%26#039;t know what it is yet.
Reply:Don%26#039;t eat pickles before you sleep...lol, just kidding. I%26#039;ve had a similar dream before at a very stressful time in my life...so my guess is that your stressed out or maybe it%26#039;s a premonition...
Reply:soundes like you need closer on something
Reply:I agree with Valerie A but I think we cannot stay here doing Freud...


Anyone got his job :)
Reply:I think you are worried about something in your life and it has nothing to do with death--thus no coffin --You will have to be honest with yourself and admit the problem then you will be on the way to solving it. Good luck !
Reply:SOUNDS AS THOUGH YOU OR SOMEONE CLOSE HAS A DISEASE BUT IT%26#039;S NOT LIFE THREATENING.
Reply:your are trying to bury something from your past and cant manage to do it.
Reply:perhaps you%26#039;re upset over something, or are struggling with something in your life. or you%26#039;re trying to %26quot;bury%26quot; something that has happened in the past....
Reply:I%26#039;d guess you had a fleeting moment of dread - about your own mortality.


No coffin - because you weren%26#039;t dead - and just witnessing a %26#039;non-event%26#039; which will happen one day - but not yet.


Try to enjoy the rest of your life.
Reply:Hi i think it could possibly mean the end of something and a new beginning, People think when they dream of death it is a bad think but i honestly think it is just letting you know that new beginnings are waiting 4 you...... out with the old an in with the new.
Reply:i think that mabe someone will die...or your waiting for something that%26#039;s not there...or bad news will come in the future
Reply:but one day there will be one but who/s.



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Girlfriends grandmother died?

My girlfriends grandmother just died, I havent had to deal with anything like this before in a relationship. what should I do. I dont really know her family well, so would it be a bad thing if she said i dont have have to come to the wake of funeral, even if i want to? should I send flowers or something. HELP

Girlfriends grandmother died?
I would go with her unless she asks you not to. Some families are more private than others and it%26#039;s nothing against you.
Reply:GO TO THE FUNERAL AND JUST BE THERE FOR HER.....
Reply:I said a prayer for you today


And know God must have heard-


I felt the answer in my heart


Although He spoke no word!


I didn%26#039;t ask for wealth or fame


(I knew you wouldn%26#039;t mind)-


I asked Him to send you treasures


Of a far more lasting kind!


I asked that He%26#039;d be near you


At the start of each new day


To grant you health and blessings


And my friendship to share your way!


I asked for happiness for you


In all things great and small-


But it was for His loving care


I prayed the most of all!





By: Kenny P. aka-Cobra
Reply:Support her. If the family doesn%26#039;t want anyone except themselves on the funeral, accept it. You can go to the cementary with her after some time. Just be there for her. Be patient. Let her cry or talk about her grandmother if she pleases. In such moments you don%26#039;t even have to say anything, just BE.
Reply:Be very supportive to your girlfriend, and you should go to the funereal unless she says otherwise. I know when my grandmom died my boyfriend showed up and it meant so much to me.
Reply:Flowers are a great idea but send to both the funeral home and to you girl Friend. Do as she requests, nothing more. Let her know this is a first for you and she will be not only understanding of your situation but it will stop any pre-conceived notions that you are being stand-offish. Smart kid!
Reply:be supportive of her, and be that shoulder she needs to cry on. if you really want to go to the wake and funeral, let her know again how serious you are about going. she probably wants you to go, but she%26#039;s just saying that you don%26#039;t have to go because she doesnt want to make you.





try sending her and the family flowers, and take her out on a really nice date to cheer her up. call her everyday to see how she%26#039;s doing, and listen to her.





hope i helped



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Will a cemetary 'cart' be a lucrative business venture?

I%26#039;ve been to plenty of funerals lately and I%26#039;ve come up with an idea...I%26#039;d like to purchase a cart (much like a hot dog cart) and offer items such as flowers, potted plants, american flags, sympathy cards, water and other funeral related items to mourners to purchase as they grieve. They can then take these items and leave them at the final resting places! Because it will be a cart, I could wheel it all around the cemetary to the different funerals. I believe there is a HUGE market demographic with this venture...

Will a cemetary %26#039;cart%26#039; be a lucrative business venture?
I hate to rain on your parade but I don%26#039;t think that there is any market for your services. Furthermore, most cemeteries are private property and you%26#039;d have a rough time getting permission to operate such a cart. Think of it this way: If such a market existed wouldn%26#039;t the private cemetery ALREADY have a little kiosk selling these items on the way in? Finally, there is the crassness factor. How are you going to do this? Drive your little cart up to the just stopped parade of funeral cars with bells dinging and a Requiem Mass blaring over the loud speaker?





Most people going to funerals wish they were somewhere else and stopping to buy a trinket for the recently departed will not add to their pleasure.





Your idea is creative but at the same time it will be a loser.



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What flower would you want laid on your casket?

And not to be anymore dramatic but if your Funeral would be a movie who would be taking the flower to your coffin and what song would play in the background as they walked up to it with flower in hand? Mine would be a White Rose and it would be carried by a loved one while Elvis Presleys%26#039; My Way was playing....

What flower would you want laid on your casket?
MOST DEFINATELY A SUNFLOWER BECAUSE THEY WERE MY GRANNY%26#039;S FAVORITE. I WOULD WANT THE SONG %26quot;YOU ARE MY SUNSHINE%26quot; (THATS WHAT SHE USED TO SING TO ME WHEN I WAS LITTLE) *OR* THATS WHAT I LOVE ABOUT SUNDAYS. BECAUSE IT%26#039;S ME %26amp; MY HUSBANDS SONG. GOD THIS QUESTION IS MAKIN ME SAD.
Reply:%26quot;Birds of Paradise%26quot; playing %26quot;the sounds of silence%26quot;
Reply:I would want dandeilions.
Reply:If it is going to be LAID on the casket then it will have to be another flower. Species stick together for the most part.
Reply:the fair flower i would prefer would be a 29 yr. old virgo beauty with dark hair and blue eyes. screaming uncontrollably that she can%26#039;t possibly live without me because of my wonderfullness, depth and tantric prowess. could happen, right? :-)
Reply:i wud want my fags on me casket !!! my song would be %26quot;i knew you were waiting %26quot; george michael and aretha franklin x.x.xx
Reply:I want Praise and Worship music playing and I do not have a loved one in mind that would love me enough to look sincere taking the flowers to my casket. However I have plenty of friends from church (I suppose they love me) If any of them bring flowers (roses, daisies, lilies) I would like them to be all peach color (my favorite)
Reply:If I%26#039;m dead, I wont care!!
Reply:black eyed susan%26#039;s and %26quot;we%26#039;ll meet again%26quot;
Reply:I just hope it%26#039;s not one that has already grown from a seed to a flower...
Reply:im not sure about which flower i would want, but i would say either a white rose or a black rose :) and i would want %26quot;I%26#039;ll be missing you%26quot; by p. diddy as the song lol
Reply:I want %26quot;I%26#039;ll Fly Away%26quot; played at mine. Stargazer lillies for the flowers.



genealogy mormon

How can I forgive and forget my Inlaws lack of compassion when my father died?

My husband was in Alaska at the time with the National Guard and he was unable to make it home for my father%26#039;s burial because he was in such a remote area. My inlaws were aware of everything that was going on and knew I was enduring a great deal of stress. My dad was under hospice care and in terrible pain, it was hard on me and my 11 and 2 year old girls. We and the inlaws were pretty close at the time in despite of their ridiculous ways and ongoing marital dramas...But to get to the point, my inlaws never even stopped by to check on me and the kids after my dad died! My mother inlaw even used the old %26#039;jury duty%26#039; excuse in response when my husband told her on the phone that my dad had died and funeral arrangements were being made. She said she%26#039;d send flowers (but never did)...I was there for their family funerals and problems and yet the response I get from them is NOTHING, then excuses, and then his mom lies about me, then downplays that she lied... What do I do? How should I feel

How can I forgive and forget my Inlaws lack of compassion when my father died?
How abandoned and hurt this must have made you feel! It seems to me that we have left behind a lot of the traditional ways of supporting those who lose a loved one. Those traditions helped people to know what to do. And, without them, a lot of people feel extremely awkward about handling the emotions surrounding a death.





Chances are, your in-laws%26#039; failure to give you the support you needed was due to their lack of comfort with your emotional state and just plain not knowing what to do or say. I%26#039;m not excusing them - when it comes to those we love, we should fight through our discomfort and at least try. But I would like you to know that it doesn%26#039;t mean they don%26#039;t care about you.





It would be nice if you could have a quiet, non-confrontational conversation with them about this. Tell them that you just want to tell them what you needed, so that they will know should something like this arise again. Explain to them that their support is important to you because they are your family. I sure hope they%26#039;re big enough to admit that they blew it. If they do, hun, you have to forgive and move on.





I%26#039;m very sorry for you loss.
Reply:That%26#039;s the nature of in-law relationships. You are family, when they want to see hubby %26amp; kids, and you%26#039;re not family when it%26#039;s about you.
Reply:Do you think that money could have been a factor? I know it doesn%26#039;t take a lot to send flowers or drop by for a visit, but sometimes people have a hard time scraping together even a couple of dollars.


If money isn%26#039;t a factor, then I%26#039;m sorry but they were pretty bad relatives. However, they are still family so you have to put it behind you. You don%26#039;t have to forget, but you do have to try to put it behind you for your sake.


I%26#039;m so sorry you lost your father. That is one of the most traumatic events you can go through in your life and your in-laws should have been there for you. I would hate for you to let your in-laws%26#039; actions make you feel worse.
Reply:First of all, I%26quot;m so sorry to hear about your terrible loss. There are no words to express my sorrow for what you are going through right now...


Well, my dear... I guess there is not much you can do or say about this situation. Yes, your in laws should have been more supportive to you, and to their grandkids as well (who of course are suffering a lot too), but that was not the case. I have inlaws who act like that as well, they simply DO NOT CARE. Some people are this way, unfortunately. But I am sure you have had the support of other people, family members, close friends and neighbors. I know it is very hard on you, but you can try concentrating on positive things, positive people that surround you. Never mind the inlaws. There is nothing you can do. You cannot make people like you. I totally sympathize with you. It makes me mad to the core that some people just don%26#039;t care, they are not sensitive of other people%26#039;s feelings. But ... sorry to be blunt (I found out the bad way too)... it is what it is. The important thing is that your husband is there for you, he was the one you married, not your inlaws. If they don%26#039;t care, oh well... move on. You are a beautiful individual who is loved by many people, I%26#039;m sure, and you totally do not depend on your laws for their love. A tip for you: the more you fuss about in laws, the more they will be there to harass you. You CANNOT let them know where your weak point is. If they know that, they will press the right bottons to make you mad and if that%26#039;s what they really want to see (you depressed, sad, mad), they will do it. Just act superior to them, never complaint about or to them. Just act neutral, no emotion (good or bad). Plain cold. Make sure your husband understands your pain about your loss, and talk to him, find comfort in him. You will be alright, you are strong.



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Will a cemetary 'cart' be a lucrative business venture?

I%26#039;ve been to plenty of funerals lately and I%26#039;ve come up with an idea...I%26#039;d like to purchase a cart (much like a hot dog cart) and offer items such as flowers, potted plants, american flags, sympathy cards, water and other funeral related items to mourners to purchase as they grieve. They can then take these items and leave them at the final resting places! Because it will be a cart, I could wheel it all around the cemetary to the different funerals. I believe there is a HUGE market demographic with this venture...

Will a cemetary %26#039;cart%26#039; be a lucrative business venture?
You may have a problem with the cemetary. Its private property, and they dont allow people to sell things there. But you could always do business just outside the cemetary gates....
Reply:Susan had a much better idea. It would be tacky, and would probably anger most people, to have someone with a cart come wheeling up during their loved ones funeral.
Reply:Good Morning-


While your heart is in the right place, I personally feel this proposition would be over the top. Grieving people may be offended to see a %26quot;cart o%26#039; grief%26quot; at the grave site of their dearly departed. HOWEVER... you have an excellent idea if you alter it slightly. If you would like to put together grief baskets, or plants, flags, etc. what have you, you can always advertise at funeral homes, churches, casket, and head stone shops and offer free delivery to the grave site. Offer themes such as Military, Patriotic, Good Mother, Good Father, Sweet Child, Beloved Aunt/Uncle, Grandmother, Grandfather, the list could be endless and the more markets you open, the better you will do. You would put together things in those categories so people could order them, without the grief of having to pick things out individually. See?


Remember when it comes to business New Market Penetration is KEY. You have a good idea, start tweaking, you may be an entrepreneur yet!
Reply:People going into a cemetary have already decided if there is anything they want to leave at the graveside. I think it is a bad idea and in bad taste. Leave the families aloneto grieve.



genealogy mormon

Can you see things in the future through your dreams?

I am mixed up about this because when i was in 4th grade i had this dream that my grandma died in a hospital room with my family, and my cousin, and all these doctors. A year later she died of cancer, and it was the same cousin who was with her in the hospital room when she died.





Also i dreamt of her funeral, and how it was sunny and there were flowers, etc. in spring. She died in april. It was an outside funeral, nothing fancy.





but can you tell the future with your dreams?...or is this just a random dream?

Can you see things in the future through your dreams?
It%26#039;s true. I know because it happens to me quite a bit. It%26#039;s hilarious most of the time. sometimes i just KNOW when somthing will happen, and then i remember that I had a dream about it the night before. once, me and my brother and sister were watching TV, i then said %26quot;Mom in three...two...one...%26quot; then all of a sudden my mom yells %26quot;Gabe! get in here!%26quot; from the kitchen. its freaks my friends out, but i think its cool. its usually small stuff though.
Reply:yes some people can..i no of people who have and they can still do it till this day
Reply:yes you can that is why we so often have deja vu%26#039;s
Reply:Yes, it happens. Some minds are able to preconceive, if you will, a future traumatic event. Usually it is a recurring dream though.
Reply:Sometimes in your dreams, you could be flashed into the future. So yeah, you could sometimes either see into the future or just have a really good guess!
Reply:I believe I can. It has happened several times, mostly minor things, but once I predicited a big murder/ child abduction case, but I didn%26#039;t realize unitl it was too late that I had dreamed it. So yes, it is very much possible. I think it means we%26#039;re just really lucky people ;)
Reply:This is such a contentious question. Freud, the father of modern dream interpretation thought it was impossible to dream the future. Jung, his disciple saw many dreams coming true; in short he saw that they could see the future. Yet he believed that if you had a bad dream you could change it for the better.





Like most people, Jung didn’t think this through. Why am I saying this? I am saying this because if you see something and declare it to be a future event, it has no choice but to come along. If it didn’t it could not have been future. If you change what you have called the future it cannot come along and therefore it could NOT have been the future. It is either or, not a bit of this and a bit of that.





So, when you have seen one dream coming true, you cannot but realise that the future is not something that is made up step by step as you go through life. NO, it is something that already IS right NOW. Clearly, having a dream that showed you a future as far ahead as one year must tell you that the year you have seen in your dream only seems to be far ahead while in reality, as the dream clearly demonstrates, it is right with you at this very moment.





Although that year is with you right now, you can’t see it with your waking mind. Only when shut down your waking mind and live through your dream body will you see the future or the 4th dimension.





It is not easy to get your head around this; but it is not hopeless, there are ways of exemplifying this conundrum. Let us say we are in a car travelling from New York to Yellowstone Park. Our knowledge of Yellow Stone Park will not unfold until we actually get there. It would seem as if the Park did not exist, yet it would be there. If on the other hand we would fly in a plane, we would see the Park from a great distance. If we went up in a rocket we would see it almost the moment we took off.





You see, it all depends on the point of view we have. And here comes the crunch: when we dream we fly in a space ship while when we are awake we are travelling at best in a car.





Now you will ask: “How come I can’t see all my dreams coming true. How is it that I don’t see tonight’s dream coming true in the morning?”





A good question that. The problem with dreams is that only few come true as you have seen the funeral of your grandma. They are the dreams that come true literally. Most dreams come true metaphorically, figuratively, in the spirit of things. In other words for you to be able to see how all dreams come true you would have to learn the dream’s language. Those who write into Yahoo Answers have that ability to varying degrees. But that doesn’t even mean that they believe, as I do, that all dreams come true. They can interpret your dream because they look at it as a story and read it like a story and then tell you what they think that story meant.





So if you want to learn how to read your dreams, you must first of all treat them just like an ordinary story. In fact it is a good idea to forget for a start that you are dealing with a dream. When you forget that it is a dream, you use your common sense and that is what most dream interpretation is.





For example; if I tell you now that I am on cloud nine, you will at once understand in what frame of mind I am. If on the other hand I tell you a dream that I was riding a cloud in my dream you will say: “That is crazy, no one can do that, it must be nonsense.” Yet the dream was really saying the same thing as what I said to you by means of a waking metaphor, a figure of speech. The meaning is the same, but the way it is said is different.





A wonderful help in learning the language of your dreams is this: When you recall a dream in the middle of the day suddenly and willy-nilly, you must stop everything you do and look at the situation you are facing and then compare it with the dream you just remembered. I call this the recall rule. It is your living dictionary to the mystery of your dreams!





Just one more thing: Once you have realised through your dreams that the future is NOW you will soon realise that you haven’t a worry in life because everything you will encounter in life, everything you will do is not your doing since everything already IS. Strange to think that your grandma was already dead at the time of your dream; that we all are already dead and yet still walk about as if…





Yes indeed, life is strange.
Reply:i think things are out of this world, but i believe someway you could.



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