How do I help my Girlfriend?

My 16 year old girlfriend's mother has had ALS for about 3 years now. Last weekend I was told that she had gotten weak enough to the point where she could not eat, and she refused to take a feeding tube. Last Wednesday she passed away from starvation. My girlfriend is taking it extremely hard (which I don't blame her for at all). She is in the stage where she wants to be alone. I bought her a few things (a card and a stuffed bear, I felt like flowers weren't right for some reason) unannounced and she seemed to be happy by it. I tried to contact her the next day and she didn't want to talk. I frequently (not to the point of annoyance) tell her I'm here for her and try to comfort her. Does anyone else have any more advice as to what I can do to make her feel any better at all? Should I just wait it out a bit more before trying anything new if anything at all? I realize that it will improve with time, possibly not longer after the funeral. Any responses would be much obliged.

How do I help my Girlfriend?
You did the best thing by letting her know you're there. If she wants space, then yes, give it to her. She's going through a rough time, but don't completely run out of the picture, stay close by.
Reply:If she liked the unannounced card and bear, I think an unannounced visit with a long hug is in store.
Reply:Sometimes it is the most helpless feeling we can have when we feel useless to fix something! Especially when it is someone we care about. We want to help! Unfortunately time is the only answer at this point. HUGS ARE the BEST!! Just keep doing what you are doing and be patient! Grieving comes in waves which get smaller over time. Good one min bad the next 6 mons to a year sometimes and you are right it will get better with time! Be strong for her she needs you! You can do it!! You sound like you really care! Good for you!
Reply:give her time but still talk to her


she needs to know you are really there, shes gonna say she wants to be alone but i really think she loves knowing you are there


you are doing everything correct, support her, and make sure she doesn't do anything stupid from sadness





i'm so sorry that happened to her



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