What Should I Do??????? Here's the story........?

My uncle died monday. I have to go to the funeral Thursday morning. So Wednesday afternoon I picked some plumeria's off a lady's tree in her front yard. I wanted to ask her if I could but I waited and went back three times to her house and nobody was there. Some neighbors must have wrote down my license plate number and gave it to her. She called the police and had them come and talk to me. She said she was not going to press charges, and that she knew the flowers were going to die, she was just annoyed that I did not ask.


Now here is where I don't know what to do?





Should I go and apologize and give her a $10.00 gift certificate to a restaurant in town.


OR


Just apologize and tell her how sorry I am.


OR


Do nothing and just continue to be upset about it.

What Should I Do??????? Here's the story........?
I think you should talk to her and just apologize. No gift!!


And she will definitely understand when you will tell her that you tried to ask her but she wasn't there several times and especially when you'll tell her what was the reason you picked the flowers (it was for your uncle's funeral), she's not made of stone, she'll understand.


Sorry for your loss.
Reply:It would be polite to indeed suggest the certificate [even if it costs you...] and explain what happened. I'm sure she will be understanding of your reasons. You could mention your uncle's name. [maybe she will look for the obit. in the paper.]


You sound like a very nice person to offer the certificate in the replace of the flowers!





I personally would understand [not happy about the flowers but..] and honor your offer of a certificate, but not take it. It never hurts to try.


Best of luck and my sorrow for your loved one passing away.
Reply:I am glad you realize that what you did was wrong. I am not condemning you, but just to let you know, you could have been arrested and charged with trespassing on private property.





I don't think you should go to her house again. I agree that the proper thing to do would be to send a card with a letter or note to apologize with a brief explanation of the circumstances. Please do not give her a gift certificate or flowers unless she responds to your note. Depending on the type of person you are dealing with, the generous thought may be misconstrued and backfire on you.
Reply:talk to here
Reply:Send her a card of apology, that's all.
Reply:I would just leave a gift basket or something on her porch.
Reply:I think you should apologize and give her the gift card. I think that would be a real sweet and genuine gesture. You shouldn't be upset about it, afterall, you did pick flowers off her tree. I think it's awesome that you're even thinking of personally apologizing to her, not many will do that. Good Luck!
Reply:you could get her a card !! an apology would not be a bad idea.
Reply:I would send her a very nice letter stating why you picked her flowers without asking and that you meant no disrespect. Sending a letter allows you to say everything you need to say since we ALL tend to either get upset and say things we regret or we get sidetracked and wish we had said more. Send a nice card and put the letter inside or write on the left side of the card. That should do it. If the woman is still upset, than you know that she's a cold hearted woman and doesn't deserve your apology. Good Luck! I'm truly sorry about your uncle.
Reply:Choice #1. apologize and give her a GC., or u may also consider relpacing the flowers you picked. give her a new flower to grow in her yard.. know what's her fave one...
Reply:I don't even understand why she made such a big deal about it..You took the flowers for a good cause..I have also a yard with many flowers and there have been times when people come and take some...I wouldn't call the police for that!Plus if they told me that they wanted the flowers for a reason like yours I wouldn't even consider saying anything.I'm not saying that people should just pass from any yard and pick flowers because I understand that their owners look after them a lot, but I don't think it's also a crime for which you have to call the police!Maybe you should have written a note telling her what you did and leave it to her door.Anyway, I would recommend you to apologize and tell her how sorry you are.Explain to her that you were waiting for quite a long time for her and that you were devastated from your uncle's death and therefore you wanted to make something on your own (lei) rather than buying something from a floristry...If she insists, then you can give her the 10.00 $ gift for the restaurant..



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