Have you ever been to a cemetary?

Not for a funeral, but like did you even actually go there to visit someone who passed away? I went there today, for the first time in my life and saw my grandparents and other relatives. Many graves were all dirty, and the flowers were all dead and stuff, you could tell that no one was visiting them. It breaks my heart to see this! so i was just wondering, who here actualy goes and visits?

Have you ever been to a cemetary?
Yes I have been to some before. When I was younger my dad used to take me sometimes to just walk around and pay a visit to the dead, which is sad but nice at the same time because they are being visited (by strangers) but everybody deserves to get attention, wether its to help take out the old flowers or remove dust, I mean anythign helps. = )
Reply:i don't, only because i am firm believer that standing on a grassy lawn with a tombstone under your feet is a bit of a waste of time. once one is gone, they are gone. i understand the paying our respects side of it, but in reading what you wrote, the area was not clean, and visiting only made you sad. why subject yourself to that???
Reply:Yes. and when I clean off my loved one's grave I sometimes clean off others close by that look neglected.
Reply:I do a lot since my grandma died in August, before that I went every once in a while. You're right about people not visiting. My other grandparents' headstone was being overtaken by this huge shrub so we called the cemetery to have it removed. Turns out there were 2 headstones underneath the shrub that you couldn't even see. Two people forgotten like that.
Reply:no i never have, I actually, and this may bother alot of people, I actually think that cemetarys are a waste of space. Day by day our world is seeming to get smaller.


It's not like they can say "okay these bodies are 100 years old we can get rid of them now" to make room for new ones. I think people should be cremated, unless they really really really wanted to be buried. Because your right, they often get neglected.
Reply:kinda, i say that because i lost my mom to cancer 6 yrs ago and she was creamated so theres not really a grave to go visit but i made a cross out of sheet metal and put it somewhere special and thats where i spread some of her ashes so i call that spot my lil cemetary.
Reply:I have to take flowers to a family friend because he never married and had no kids. His sisters don't live in the state so if I don't go nobody will.
Reply:Every family need to the graves of their family. We do clean up every few months. We even do this all the cemetery lot that are out of state.
Reply:I don't think that it is sad - the living move on. I domn't suppose the dead would want their relatives going to loads of trouble as that is usually indicative of someone who is stuck in the past.
Reply:Yes I have been to a cemetary to visit my grandpa who passed away about a year ago.
Reply:I have never visited a loved one's gravesite, but I have wandered through cemetaries when I lived on the East Coast. There was a lot of history in them, and it interested me to see when people died and how close together, etc. Also, Tom Thumb was buried in a cemetary in Bridgeport, CT, where I used to live, and they had a life sized statue of him over his grave. It was very interesting. However, I wouldn't go to pay my respects to loved ones. I don't believe they are where their body or ashes were buried, but in Heaven. So I can remember them and pray for them anywhere.



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