Funereal advice please?

what should i know before going to a funeral of someones I did not know very well but do wish to pay my last respects and offer condolonce to widow. Other than dressing conservatively. Bring flowers ? Stay in the back and shut up ? See the widow and then sit down and shut up ?

Funereal advice please?
You don't need to bring anything to the funeral, call the funeral home or church ahead of time and find out if the family is requesting donations to anything and make a contribution if you wish. Most likely there will be a guest book at the funeral for you to sign. The widow isn't going to remember who all attended but later on she will look through the book. You could send her a sympathy card in the mail, that would also be a really nice gesture, even though you don't know her, she would really like to see the impact her husband had on other people. If you would like to say something to her personally, it would be fine, just pick an appropriate opportunity. I've been to funerals where the family is lined up waiting for people to give their condolences and I've been to others where people gathered after to speak with the family. It totally depends on the situation, just be considerate of the family.
Reply:Usually there is a wake at the funeral home during the day and or evening before the funeral. This is usually when the family of the deceased will have a receiving line to greet the people who have come to wish their condolences to the family of the deceased. It is considered polite to sign the guest book at the wake, wait in line and let the family know that you are deeply sorry for their loss and let them know who you are and how you knew the deceased. I always bring a card and or Mass card with me and after I talk to the family I leave the cards on the card pedestal/table next to the deceased. I then kneel and say a prayer for the deceased. The funeral usually takes place at a church or synagogue and this is usually not the time to talk to the family as they will be overcome with their loss.
Reply:If you knew the family, acknowledge the members of the family you know, then sit in the back. If you did not know the family, go, pay your respects and be done with it. The family is usually not going to notice everyone there anyway and probably will not question your motives for being there. If there is a reception I would advise you not to go unless you are invited. Flowers are not necessary unless you know the family or widow. Other than that, pay your respects.
Reply:Dress nicely, approach the widow respectfully, say I am sorry for your loss, maybe touch her hand or forearm while you say this, then go sit down and be quiet and be sure your cell phone is off....Find out from the obituary if they are accepting memorials for a charity or for kids or something and use teh money that you would spend on flowers for that.
Reply:You don't need to bring anything. You don't have to hide in the back. Just sit in the middle.
Reply:If you did not know the deceased very well, then by all means go to the funeral and tell the widow you are sorry for her loss. Approach her very calmly and introduce yourself and tell her your relation to the deceased (i.e. how you knew him). Most likely she will extend her hand for you to shake. If she does not, then extend your hand first. While you shake, look her kindly in the eye and say, "I am very sorry for your loss. [Name of deceased] will be greatly missed by everyone."





She will most likely thank you for your kind regards. Once she does this (or does not do this) quickly and politely move on so that other funeral guests may talk to the widow.





It is not necessary to bring flowers, but it is always a nice gesture. It is truly up to you if you want to introduce yourself to other guests you don't know well. However, keep in mind that a funeral is not a networking event. This is not the time to get into details about you, your work, your hobbies, etc.
Reply:If you didnt know them well, you dont need to bring anything. Flowers are always nice.


Just dress well, say how sorry you are to the family, and sit through it.
Reply:flowers are a waist of money, i think. when i attend a funereal i make a donation in the family's name to a cause they are close to. if the person died of a heart attack, make a donation to the American heart Association.
Reply:You got it- just show up , greet the widow, and be supportive


How I how funerals!
Reply:Tell them to get a life and stop being so sad! It's stupid.......I bet that's what you're thinking anyway! LMAO



flower

Funny or not?

On opening his new store, a man received a bouquet of flowers. He became dismayed on reading the enclosed card, that it expressed "Deepest Sympathy". While puzzling over the message, his telephone rang. It was the florist, apologizing for having sent the wrong card. "Oh, it's alright." said the storekeeper. "I'm a businessman and I understand how these things can happen." "But," added the florist, "I accidentally sent your card to a funeral party." "Well, what did it say?" ask the storekeeper. "'Congratulations on your new location'." was the reply.

Funny or not?
ho ho ho lmao very funny great1 ho ho ho.....................
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Reply:lol. this was better than your other joke... on a scale of 1-10 I'd give it a 6. It's really cute.
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Reply:hahaha...Yes I liked it a lot :)
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Reply:I like it, quite funny.
Reply:Yes, quirky, but funny.
Reply:cute
Reply:ahh that's is so sad. but yet


funny . ........................................... still laughing,.
Reply:That is awful funny.
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Reply:Awww, oh my gosh. Ha ha, that is pretty funny.
Reply:no not really! Yours are usually good as well!
Reply:i like it :-)
Reply:Haha, nice one!
Reply:well i am sure the occupant of the box coudnt read it 9/10
Reply:quite funny. it makes me smile.


thanks for the joke (",)



genealogy mormon

What do you think of my poem "House of the Dead: My Home Too"?

I looked around


The sky was interesting


The moon was in the white sky and the sun was going down





I looked around


There were comforters and comfortees


I was suppose to be a comforter





I looked around like a tourist


as if the funeral-to-be was a spectacle


I was in my role of observer


and I saw my co-worker’s white face


without makeup was still quite pretty


Did her grief add to or subtract from her beauty?





I saw the mounds of dirt


some with flowers and some without


I tried not to think what it meant


what those mounds of dirt meant





The wife of the dead man fainted


I had been told that she didn’t love her husband


Then I remembered my friend telling me


the dead man took too long to die


the family prayed for his death

What do you think of my poem "House of the Dead: My Home Too"?
Well the poem itself was okay, I hope your state of mind is not in there somewhere, watch the sun come up some morning and see if that inspires you.
Reply:I think its ok just the time of day seems too off the time funerals are generally taking place. Or maybe the sun setting and the moon rising is more of an abstract thing either way im not that into poems.



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Gift for berevement counselor?

She is my therapist through Hospice bc I lost my son. Everything she does is free. The sessions,she went to the funeral home to make 3d sculptures of his hands/feet,brings me other things like scrapbook stukk,money gifts for me and the other kids,angel statue,all kinds of things. I want to give her a small gift. I have very little money. I dont want it to be too personal,just a small token. I know she does what she does bc its her job,but she has really gone out of her way. I was thinking not flowers. Any other ideas?

Gift for berevement counselor?
Wow, what special souls you both are. I'm so sorry for your loss. You are lucky to have someone like your counselor in your life and I'm sure just being able to help you is compensation enough.





She may feel uncomfortable if you spend money on her since she knows you don't have much. The best thing to do would be to find a nice card and write her a letter telling her everything you told us and more. Express how grateful you are for her comfort and support, and thank her. I'm sure she'd appreciate that from your heart much more than some trinket.





The next thing to do is "pay it forward." Ask her if you can volunteer with her or find some volunteer work that you are interested in. Your taking what she gave you and giving it to someone else with your touch added is the best form of payback.
Reply:God bless you, honey! Spread the love. Those women need you. Report It

Reply:If you don't want it to be flowers or anything too personal, how about a cookie basket or fruit basket?
Reply:First of all, I am so deeply sorry for your loss. This lady sounds like a real angel. Maybe an inexpensive angel statue. There is a line of figurines, they are called Willow Tree Angels. They are very symbolic and there are many different designs. They are very inexpensive. You can go to www.demdaco and search for willow tree. The "Guardian Angel" and " Angel of Healing" would be beautiful. God Bless and I hope this helped.
Reply:I think giving her a ceramic angel would be lovely. Or maybe a picture of your son in a picture frame. Or maybe make a CD of classical music or christian music. Or you know how you can make a calendar from your own pictures, make her a calendar. You can even make them on your own computer. Hopefully you have a color printer. Get some nice colored paper.





I hope that helps and I'm sorry to hear about your son's passing. I think she will enjoy any of these ideas.
Reply:Does she have kids too? Why not bake them a cake with their names written on them?
Reply:My thought's on that for a limited budget would be perhaps a thoughful card with a nicely written letter inside. SOmetimes that alone is more than enough.



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How did you like this?

On opening his new store, a man received a bouquet of flowers. He became dismayed on reading the enclosed card, that it expressed "Deepest Sympathy".





While puzzling over the message, his telephone rang. It was the florist, apologizing for having sent the wrong card.





"Oh, it's alright." said the storekeeper. "I'm a businessman and I understand how these things can happen."





"But," added the florist, "I accidentally sent your card to a funeral party."





"Well, what did it say?" ask the storekeeper.





"'Congratulations on your new location'." was the reply.

How did you like this?
LMAO .. ohh can you imagine the widow's reaction on that one! thanks for the laff on this friday morning! = ) have a good one!
Reply:LmAo..that's pretty funny!
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Reply:lol, thats funny!!!!!!
Reply:funny, I would loved to have been at the funeral to see their faces
Reply:Ha! LMAO!!


Thanks for the laugh.
Reply:that is the best one ive seen for the day. i love it!





lmao.
Reply:hahaha !! good one :)
Reply:nice 1
Reply:Thats is funny
Reply:haha


he built a grave yard! so that doesnt make a shopkeeper anymore.i think hes a dread ripper!!lol
Reply:cool!!fantastic!!!really humourous!!!thanks for givin me dis joke i m gonna tell it to ma friends and if u don mind take da credit!
Reply:they probably wouldn't have read the flowers 2 sad 2


but if they would have -- hilarious!!
Reply:omg.. thats kinda sad.. (well for the ppl at the funeral)



fitness

What is your take on this sad and Disturbing Story?

Porter had reported 26-year-old Jessie Davis missing one week ago Friday after finding the young woman's bedroom in disarray, the furniture overturned and Davis' young son home alone. The 2-year-old boy, who may be the only witness to his mother's disappearance, told investigators: "Mommy was crying. Mommy broke the table. Mommy's in rug."





When Porter was asked Friday by NBC's "Today" show if she considered the father of Davis' son and unborn baby a suspect, she replied: "Yes, he's a suspect."





"I still pray that it's not him," she said. "That doesn't mean that I don't think he's a suspect, as well."





Authorities have talked with and searched the home of the father, Canton police officer Bobby Cutts Jr., although investigators have repeatedly said Cutts is not a suspect.





Cutts, 30, says he had nothing to do with Davis' disappearance. The woman's family says he is the father of both 2-year-old Blake and of Davis' unborn baby.





On Friday, some 250 volunteers lined up for a second day to help search surrounding fields and woods for any sign of Davis. She was nine months pregnant when she disappeared, with a due date of July 3. More than 1,800 volunteers had turned up Thursday to scour backyards, vacant fields and a Christmas tree farm.





Davis' sister, Whitney, said the family was not participating Friday.





"It's too stressful every time a dog comes across something," she said.





Search dogs hit on one area of freshly dug dirt Thursday more than a mile from her home in nearby Lake Township, but it turned out to be a marijuana plot, Stark County sheriff's Capt. Gary Shankle said.





"It's very frustrating, but we just can't leave any stone unturned," he said.





Porter said Friday that young Blake was keeping everyone motivated and reminding them every day of his mother, whom she described as her best friend, a woman without enemies who "always had a big smile on her face."





Blake "has periods where he just lays his head down on the couch and has this horrible look of sadness, and then the next moment he'll have this big, beautiful smile. He really is what keeps us going," she told ABC.





Volunteers searched the area around Davis' home for about 4 1/2 hours Thursday until they were stopped by heavy rain. Groups of 80 to 100 searchers covered a total area of about eight square miles, said Tim Miller, director of Texas EquuSearch, an internationally active search group that organized the volunteer effort.





"I'm hopeful we can find her alive," he said. "If not, the second best thing we can do is be back here next week for a funeral."





During the massive search Thursday, police officer Jamie Mizer led one of 14 groups while three months pregnant.





"That's kind of what's motivating me to be out here," she said.





One woman wore high heels but gave up 20 minutes later after walking through a wooded area. Another maneuvered on crutches. "I'm here for the whole thing," said Tammy Robinson, 47.





Others prayed for Davis' safe return at a nondenominational evangelical church Davis' mother attends.





At Davis' home, several bouquets of flowers had been left outside.





On Wednesday, sheriff's investigators and FBI agents carried out more than a dozen white cardboard boxes, a few brown bags and three large black plastic bags during a search of Cutts' home.





His mother, Renee Horne, told The that agents were looking for Davis' cell phone and a quilt missing from her home. She said FBI agents questioned her son twice Wednesday, and read him his Miranda rights during the second interview.





Meanwhile, the DNA of a newborn baby found about 45 miles from Davis' home was being tested to see if the infant is related to the missing woman. The testing was not expected to be finished until next week.

What is your take on this sad and Disturbing Story?
the baby said that his mommy is in the rug... she is a river or has been buried or even worst... why does it take a woman to be missing for people to come together,
Reply:I've been following this story myself. I think it's awful. It's like Lacey Peterson all over again. I don't think that they'll find her alive and I do hope that the baby that the nurse and her husband found is at least the baby.
Reply:Oh My God! That's horrible and sad! My thoughts are that the husband didn't have anything to do with it and it must have been a planned attack aiming for that woman in particular because they would have taken the son to if it was a random act of violence. Maybe an enemy of some sort. I hope they find her soon. It's terrible
Reply:Sadly, I fear the worst for this family. It seems to me that Jessie Davis is the focus - not her son or the baby girl. Whoever struggled with her in the house obviously chose to not harm the little boy. Also, if it were a case of someone wanting to steal the unborn child, I would expect there to be blood evidence at the house and perhaps even Jessie (alive or dead), minus the baby. For her to disappear with the house in disarray and her son left behind suggests to me that she was taken away forcibly and is probably now dead. Which also means that her unborn daughter is also probably dead. It is a heinous crime. My heart already hurts for her family.





I hope that I am wrong, but I doubt it. If you look at the statistics, murder rates go up dramatically for pregnant women, and the most likely killer is the unborn child's father.





I pray for her family to have some closure soon and for whoever did this to be brought to justice. It takes a special kind of sick to kill a baby, and there is no punishment too severe.



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Have you ever made a mistake like this?

On opening his new store, a man received a bouquet of flowers. He became dismayed on reading the enclosed card, that it expressed "Deepest sympathy."





While puzzling over the message, his telephone rang. It was the florist, apologizing for having sent the wrong card.





"Oh, it's alright." said the storekeeper. "I'm a businessman and I understand how these things can happen."





"But," added the florist, "I accidentally sent your card to a funeral party."





"Well, what did it say?" ask the storekeeper.





The florist read the card, "Congratulations on your new location."

Have you ever made a mistake like this?
Very good wasn't expecting that.
Reply:What a twist to that one. It is brilliant. Thanks for sharing.
Reply:lol :) thats cute
Reply:Hilarious...





Good one!
Reply:lmao thats soo funny ;)
Reply:Lol I would hate to have been the people at the funeral
Reply:Oh dear. lol
Reply:lmfao...awesome joke lol.
Reply:oops, that was good hun, pmsl
Reply:Cute! I like it :-)



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