I feel really bad, I haven't been to my mom's gravesite since her funeral. I don't think she is really there and haven't wanted to make the 90 minute trip. I feel like all I need to do is to talk to her from wherever I am. I will obviously go on her birthday and Mothers Day, but I'm wondering how others feel about how often I should go "spend time with her". I really don't think that she is laying there in that spot and not able to connect with me from wherever I am but I also don't want to "ignore" her grave site as far as flowers, etc, it's just that I live 90 minutes away and can't get there every weekend.
How often to visit mom's grave site?
Monthly. Set aside a weekend for it. Like the third Saturday of every month or something.
Reply:dont feel bad...it is some distance.....i am sure you can still talk to her from where you are....her body may be buried but i am sure she is everywhere with you........maybe you should pay a visit soon then as you said on her b'day and mothers day ect.....
Reply:Go once a year, every year, on Mother's Day.
Her birthday can be optional...
depending on how you feel at the time.
Reply:as often as u need 2 or want 2
Reply:It sounds like you have a healthy feeling about death. What you are struggling with is what you look like to others. Trust your gut feelings and visit when you feel it is right to you. Sometimes it is best to rely on the happy memories that linger in our minds
Reply:hullo
well,that depends on your way of understanding death,there is no general rule on that from mental health point of view,you can visit your mothers grave as much as you can and when ever you feels that,there is no obligation on that .
you do not have to feel guilty about that,you are doing well.
Dr solo
Reply:My mom died several over ten years ago. It's okay that you haven't been there since the funeral. I went to my mom's grave a month or so after the funeral and they hadn't even put the gravestone in yet. So, there is no rush. It's a good idea to go on the first anniversary of her death and bring some other relatives with you on that day. You shouldn't feel obligated to go to the grave a certain amount of times. I go when I need to feel comfort or when I feel the grave is being neglected and her name is being covered by overgrown grass. Then I will weed the grass myself. This is usually once or twice a year, maybe on mothers day or my mom's birthday or around Christmas time when I feel down. Some years are more, some are less. I suggest you buy some artificial flowers or a Christmas wreath in the fall this year and then you won't feel the need to visit as often, knowing the grave looks good.
Reply:If it's only 90 miles away, I would go every weekend, particularly if you want to talk to her. My mom's is over 2,000 miles away.
Reply:Don't feel really bad . Go to visit the grave of a close friend when you feel you are being urged to do so . When you visit realize it is for your learning. Try to see what you are to learn or someone to meet. Be this way with the other side of life and you will feel more in tune and not be grieving as much. I try to ask my grandfathers to tell me yes or no to all my questions. It is makes my life more successful.
Reply:i completely understand how you feel. but my dads grave is right down the road... i just cant bring myself to go there. i also believe that she can hear you from where ever you are. i would not feel bad for not going all the time, she knows you love her. i know my dad loves me and wouldnt want me to spend my time worrying about a patch of grass and whether or not it has flowers on it. dont feel bad if you dont make it there as much as u think u should, she knows if you are thinking about her. you dont have to be there for her to know that.
Reply:You have to do what feels right for you. No one person can tell you what is right and what isn't and no person can tell you your a bad person for not going. You are exactally right in saying you conect with her in other places. You know you moms in heaven and you don't have to go to her grave to talk to her. A grave site is simply just a symbol.
Reply:Annually. I am a Japanese kid living in America, but I visit my grandparents' graves annually at Japan (kinda keep the grave a little neat and clean each time I go there as to show some respect towards them). And to let you know, your mother is not bored; All people who have passed away have many things to do in their afterlives. Don't worry about leaving your mother alone. Maybe she needs some privacy. : )
Reply:Personally,I think your doing the right thing...you go on holidays... thats a pluse,you think about her in your thoughts and spirit,you love her...you sound like your a hard worker...she's probably looking down at you right now and telling herself, what a good daughter she raised. Your doing good,kept it up...Chris
Reply:There isn't any 'right' answer to this. You'll have to decide for yourself when and how to remember her. She's your mom, she'll understand.
Reply:There are no hard and fast rules for visiting gravesites ... while one person will go once a week, another person will go once per year. Just go when you need to go (and only you will know when and how often this is).
Of course it is important to spend time with your mother, but it is also important to not dwell on the past ... you will carry on with your own life. Consider yourself lucky to have your mother so close to you ... my mother's (and father's) ashes are scattered about four hours from here and, trust me, I can't get out there every weekend, even if I wanted to.
Reply:i have the same situation with my father who died 5 years ago. When i have gone to his gravesight i just dont feel him there. and i sure hope he is not there anymore dont feel guilty you know everyone has there own way of dealing with these things. it has nothing to do with how much you loved her when she was here
Reply:She's with you every day. You can't physically see her, although she may leave little signs that she's there. If she were alive, what would she tell you about visiting her grave after her death? That might help you know the answer to your question. You don't have to feel guilty I suspect she wouldn't want that either. Just live your life in a manner that would have made her proud and know she's with you every day. Your guardian angel now. Best wishes to you.
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Monday, August 3, 2009
Should she have been allowed to have an abortion or should she be a criminal?
My sister was five months pregnant when the doctors told her the placenta had torn and embryonic fluid was seeping out of the sack. The doctors told her the baby wouldn’t survive and recommended an abortion, but she refused give up on something she wanted so badly. She laid flat on her back for two months in hopes of saving her son. In the seventh month, the doctors told her the baby’s lungs hadn’t developed and there was no chance the baby would ever draw his first breath outside of the womb. The doctors induced labor to expel the fetus from the womb. Because he had no lungs, the baby never drew his first breath. We had a funeral and there’s a tiny tombstone in the family cemetery beside of my grandfather’s tombstone for Dustin. We still go there, put flowers on his grave and cry over the loss of a child which was never born. As long as he was in her womb, he was alive; he moved, he had a heart beat, and she loved him as much as any mother could love a child.
Should she have been allowed to have an abortion or should she be a criminal?
It Should be her choice. no one is responsible for anyone Else's soul though the Anti Abortionist , are so sure they got a Handel on what God thinks. I think they should give God credit, for being able to talk to others also. He is a Mighty God and need no one to Criticize for him. The spirit comes with the Breath of Air God Breaths in. who gained from the suffering that was done here?
Reply:I'm not exactly sure how she is a criminal. From your explanation, it sounds as if she was encouraged to abort the baby. She tried to save him and carry him to term, but it just wasn't feasible. It doesn't sound like she did anything wrong.
Reply:Your story has little or nothing to do with the issue of abortion.Even right to lifers respect that if the fetus is nonviable or if the mothers life is in danger abortions is right.
Reply:u cant blame her for trying to hold on to some hope there are so many stories of how the doctors were wrong and the baby was fine...miricals do happen to other people..it wouldnt have made it any easier if she had, had an abortion at an early stage u all still knew it was there.. sometimes life doesnt always go the way it should... sometimes other peoples desisions arnt what other people think they should be...she did what was right for her at the time and maternal instinct told her to hold on to hop...hey at times if we dont hols on to hope what much else have we got... take it easy on her weather u believe in god or not personally i dont but he isnt going to judge her for holding on to a baby that u knew was never gonna be...
Reply:There is no way she should be a criminal. It is hard when that happens. My mother in law had a still born baby and she regretted making the decision to carry it for as long as she could because it was more heartache. It's sad to say that no matter when he would have been born he would have been deceased. Sometimes it's easier to do it that way. I realise how devastating it can be but it's just nature (hate it or not). My sympathies to all though - it is so sad.
Reply:shoud've gotten an abortion
Reply:abortion is indeed murder, and i sympathize with you and your family. that is a tragic story. your sister had the right idea in trying to save a life, and there's nothing more she could have done. you and your family are good people.
White Teeth
Should she have been allowed to have an abortion or should she be a criminal?
It Should be her choice. no one is responsible for anyone Else's soul though the Anti Abortionist , are so sure they got a Handel on what God thinks. I think they should give God credit, for being able to talk to others also. He is a Mighty God and need no one to Criticize for him. The spirit comes with the Breath of Air God Breaths in. who gained from the suffering that was done here?
Reply:I'm not exactly sure how she is a criminal. From your explanation, it sounds as if she was encouraged to abort the baby. She tried to save him and carry him to term, but it just wasn't feasible. It doesn't sound like she did anything wrong.
Reply:Your story has little or nothing to do with the issue of abortion.Even right to lifers respect that if the fetus is nonviable or if the mothers life is in danger abortions is right.
Reply:u cant blame her for trying to hold on to some hope there are so many stories of how the doctors were wrong and the baby was fine...miricals do happen to other people..it wouldnt have made it any easier if she had, had an abortion at an early stage u all still knew it was there.. sometimes life doesnt always go the way it should... sometimes other peoples desisions arnt what other people think they should be...she did what was right for her at the time and maternal instinct told her to hold on to hop...hey at times if we dont hols on to hope what much else have we got... take it easy on her weather u believe in god or not personally i dont but he isnt going to judge her for holding on to a baby that u knew was never gonna be...
Reply:There is no way she should be a criminal. It is hard when that happens. My mother in law had a still born baby and she regretted making the decision to carry it for as long as she could because it was more heartache. It's sad to say that no matter when he would have been born he would have been deceased. Sometimes it's easier to do it that way. I realise how devastating it can be but it's just nature (hate it or not). My sympathies to all though - it is so sad.
Reply:shoud've gotten an abortion
Reply:abortion is indeed murder, and i sympathize with you and your family. that is a tragic story. your sister had the right idea in trying to save a life, and there's nothing more she could have done. you and your family are good people.
White Teeth
PLEASEEEE! HELP!!! I BEG OF YOu!!!!!?
I'm moving and I have a GIANT tank with to fish and I put hem in a small tank then late at night one of my fish was the the bottom of the tank hardly alive I stayed with SAM all night I fell asleep in the chair looked up and.. SAM was ..dead. the oher one was happy as ever or normal just seemed more since he's lonely . the later that day he was sick and before I could start crying Reme died. We made a giant grave with flowers and shiny rocks since I had them for 2 years. My little brother thought that Reme killed SAM then felt guilty so Reme killed himself. So he wasn't at the funeral. Please help why do you think SAM and Reme died!! PLEASEEEEE HHHHHHHHHHEEEEEELLLLPPPP!
PLEASEEEE! HELP!!! I BEG OF YOu!!!!!?
it was just there time to go...when its there time its just there time...theres nothing you can do =/
sorry.
Reply:Kids are dying of starvation all over the world. Get a life. Sheesh.
Reply:tank shock, nitrogen levels, lack of sufficient oxygen
various reasons
too bad, but we all have to deal with learning about death eventually,
i had so parents come in to my pet store who had told their kids we were boarding their red betta for them while they were on vacation, it had died just before they left so they came in to buy one just like it and thus keeping the kids in the dark for a few more years, and asked me to play along, i obliged and charged "room and board" for their fishy
Reply:depending on size, they might not have had enough room. and shock is a big killer of fish like the pp said
Reply:The ecosystem in your was not equalizes, you probably had a build up of nitrates in your tank. Most likely they went into shock over being in a smaller tank, before you put them in you should have added some water from their old tank to reestablish the ecosystem in the water.
Reply:Fish die from shock if they go from having lots of free area to suddenly having not as much area (smaller tank)
Reply:if you didn't use the same water from their big tank, they likely died of shock.
Very sorry
Reply:Its a fish, please, come on now. I mean I know it sucks that it died, I love my fishys too but its still just a fish.
Reply:I need more info:
What kind of fish?
What size?
Salt or fresh water?
How long were they in the small tank?
How long has it been since you moved?
Did anything change?
What do you feed?
Let me know...
Reply:I am sorry for your lose. I know you are sad over this, and I hope you feel better soon.
To answer your questions - I have to ask, Was the water the same temperature in the small tank as that of the large tank?
The smaller tank didn't have as much oxygen in the water for the two fish? I don't know, did the tanks have pumps running?
The shock of being moved could have been too much for them. And, fish are like people and other pets, they don't live forever. Remember the good times, and get more fish friends soon. SAM and REME want you to, they don't want you to be unhappy.
Some people think that our pets die in place of their owners, that something bad was going to happen to you, your fish took your place in heaven so that you can live. Your fish love you, and always will.
Reply:First of all, fish die randomly all the time...
Second of all, HOW COULD YOU TELL WHEN A FISH IS HAPPY? Does it smile at you...???
3rd, no one knows since none of us knew either one of the fish..sorry, i dont spend much time in the tank.
Reply:They probably ran out of oxygen and were very stressed out from the move.
I am so sorry. I would be crushed if my fish all died.
List the breed of the fish so we can tell if they could have killed each other.
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PLEASEEEE! HELP!!! I BEG OF YOu!!!!!?
it was just there time to go...when its there time its just there time...theres nothing you can do =/
sorry.
Reply:Kids are dying of starvation all over the world. Get a life. Sheesh.
Reply:tank shock, nitrogen levels, lack of sufficient oxygen
various reasons
too bad, but we all have to deal with learning about death eventually,
i had so parents come in to my pet store who had told their kids we were boarding their red betta for them while they were on vacation, it had died just before they left so they came in to buy one just like it and thus keeping the kids in the dark for a few more years, and asked me to play along, i obliged and charged "room and board" for their fishy
Reply:depending on size, they might not have had enough room. and shock is a big killer of fish like the pp said
Reply:The ecosystem in your was not equalizes, you probably had a build up of nitrates in your tank. Most likely they went into shock over being in a smaller tank, before you put them in you should have added some water from their old tank to reestablish the ecosystem in the water.
Reply:Fish die from shock if they go from having lots of free area to suddenly having not as much area (smaller tank)
Reply:if you didn't use the same water from their big tank, they likely died of shock.
Very sorry
Reply:Its a fish, please, come on now. I mean I know it sucks that it died, I love my fishys too but its still just a fish.
Reply:I need more info:
What kind of fish?
What size?
Salt or fresh water?
How long were they in the small tank?
How long has it been since you moved?
Did anything change?
What do you feed?
Let me know...
Reply:I am sorry for your lose. I know you are sad over this, and I hope you feel better soon.
To answer your questions - I have to ask, Was the water the same temperature in the small tank as that of the large tank?
The smaller tank didn't have as much oxygen in the water for the two fish? I don't know, did the tanks have pumps running?
The shock of being moved could have been too much for them. And, fish are like people and other pets, they don't live forever. Remember the good times, and get more fish friends soon. SAM and REME want you to, they don't want you to be unhappy.
Some people think that our pets die in place of their owners, that something bad was going to happen to you, your fish took your place in heaven so that you can live. Your fish love you, and always will.
Reply:First of all, fish die randomly all the time...
Second of all, HOW COULD YOU TELL WHEN A FISH IS HAPPY? Does it smile at you...???
3rd, no one knows since none of us knew either one of the fish..sorry, i dont spend much time in the tank.
Reply:They probably ran out of oxygen and were very stressed out from the move.
I am so sorry. I would be crushed if my fish all died.
List the breed of the fish so we can tell if they could have killed each other.
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Whats this song.?
I can not for the life of me remember any of the lyrics but its by a guy and its about how his firend just lost his wife and hes sing the song on his way home from the funeral and he say hes not going to stay out so late any more and he going to bring her flowers and show his wife how much he lovers here becasue she could be gone tommorow.
Whats this song.?
Phil Vassar - Last Day Of My Life
I just left Bobby's house:
The service was today.
Got me thinkin' about how fragile life is,
As I drove away.
You know, Amy was his only love:
In a moment she was gone, long gone.
It could have been me or you.
Oh, baby, there's no time to lose.
So I'm gonna bring home a dozen roses,
An' pour us a glass of wine.
An' I'm gonna put on a little music,
An' turn down the lights.
An' I'm gonna wrap my arms around you,
An' rock you all through the night,
An' I'm gonna love you,
Like it's the last day of my life.
I drive off when the sun comes up:
I get back when it's gone down.
There's so much I wanna do with you,
But I can't be around.
Whoa, time has been just like a thief,
It's stolen too much from us,
So once it's gone we can't make it up,
So tonight, let's get back in touch.
I'm gonna bring home a dozen roses,
An' pour us a glass of wine.
An' I'm gonna put on a little music,
An' turn down the lights.
[these lyrics are found on http://www.songlyrics.com]
An' I'm gonna wrap my arms around you,
An' rock you all through the night,
An' I'm gonna love you,
Like it's the last day of my...
Life is a rainbow, it's a spring snow,
It's the mornin' dew.
An' I don't wanna waste another minute,
Without you.
So I'm gonna bring home a dozen roses,
An' pour us a glass of wine.
An' I'm gonna put on a little music,
An' turn down the lights.
An' I'm gonna wrap my arms around you,
An' rock you all through the night,
An' I'm gonna love you,
Like it's the last day of my life.
I'm gonna love you,
Like it's the last day of my life.
Oh, oh.
Reply:Phil Vasser...I think its called "Last Day of My Life" great song..
Reply:I'm agreeing with M J...I have no idea what your talking about either...it must be a brand new song.
Reply:Great song. Phil Vassar is an incredible songwriter and musician. His live shows are full of energy too. One of my favorite artists. Here is the video to 'Last Day of My Life.'
http://youtube.com/watch?v=gTyY9Z7xfzo
Reply:i think the song your talking about is "last day of my life" by Phil Vassar.
Reply:I know %26amp; love country and I have no idea....call your local radio station see if they know...
Soles
Whats this song.?
Phil Vassar - Last Day Of My Life
I just left Bobby's house:
The service was today.
Got me thinkin' about how fragile life is,
As I drove away.
You know, Amy was his only love:
In a moment she was gone, long gone.
It could have been me or you.
Oh, baby, there's no time to lose.
So I'm gonna bring home a dozen roses,
An' pour us a glass of wine.
An' I'm gonna put on a little music,
An' turn down the lights.
An' I'm gonna wrap my arms around you,
An' rock you all through the night,
An' I'm gonna love you,
Like it's the last day of my life.
I drive off when the sun comes up:
I get back when it's gone down.
There's so much I wanna do with you,
But I can't be around.
Whoa, time has been just like a thief,
It's stolen too much from us,
So once it's gone we can't make it up,
So tonight, let's get back in touch.
I'm gonna bring home a dozen roses,
An' pour us a glass of wine.
An' I'm gonna put on a little music,
An' turn down the lights.
[these lyrics are found on http://www.songlyrics.com]
An' I'm gonna wrap my arms around you,
An' rock you all through the night,
An' I'm gonna love you,
Like it's the last day of my...
Life is a rainbow, it's a spring snow,
It's the mornin' dew.
An' I don't wanna waste another minute,
Without you.
So I'm gonna bring home a dozen roses,
An' pour us a glass of wine.
An' I'm gonna put on a little music,
An' turn down the lights.
An' I'm gonna wrap my arms around you,
An' rock you all through the night,
An' I'm gonna love you,
Like it's the last day of my life.
I'm gonna love you,
Like it's the last day of my life.
Oh, oh.
Reply:Phil Vasser...I think its called "Last Day of My Life" great song..
Reply:I'm agreeing with M J...I have no idea what your talking about either...it must be a brand new song.
Reply:Great song. Phil Vassar is an incredible songwriter and musician. His live shows are full of energy too. One of my favorite artists. Here is the video to 'Last Day of My Life.'
http://youtube.com/watch?v=gTyY9Z7xfzo
Reply:i think the song your talking about is "last day of my life" by Phil Vassar.
Reply:I know %26amp; love country and I have no idea....call your local radio station see if they know...
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30 ways to annoy Voldemort?
1. Ask him why he 'doesn't have such a cool scar?'
2. Laugh at him.
3. Wake him up by singing Beach Boys songs in his ear. 'Round, round, get around, I get around...'
4. Knit him things. Really hideous things.
5. Give him kangaroo-ears for a month.
6. Smile during Death Eater meetings and say you taught him everything he knows.
7. Chew bubblegum all the time. Should he address you, your only response will be a series of huge bubbles in quick succession, the last of which will burst everywhere and make a mess.
8. Dance the Funky Chicken.
9. Ask him when was the last time he took a bath.
10. Pat him on the head and give him flowers when his plans are foiled yet again.
11. If you ever need to say 'Like taking candy from a baby', be sure to add 'Of course, SOME of us might find that harder than others.' Stare pointedly at him.
12. Play 'knock-%26amp;-run' at his bedchamber door late at night.
13. Call him 'The-Man-Who-Let-the-Boy-Live.'
14. Ask why the Dark Mark couldn't look like something 'more socially acceptable?'
15. Insist that you have met chunks of cheese with more cunning plans than his.
16. Pinch him. Make sure he squeals.
17. Be cheerful.
18. When he tries to impress you with his powers, say 'Awwwww, lookit. Voldie's got a twiggle!'
19. Try to teach him to play a mouth organ.
20. Roll your eyes during plotting sessions and say things under your breath like 'You're the boss, boss' or 'It's your funeral.'
21. Greet him in the mornings with a sarcastic 'My sir, you look particularly menacing today.'
22. Taunt him about his middle name. 'Marvolo? What's that - a washing detergent?'
23. Keep a 'good-behaviour chart'. Award points and give out gold stars.
24. Magic-marker Potter-style glasses on him while he sleeps.
25. Apparate into and out of his room rapidly. Do this non-stop for an hour. *poof* there *poof* gone *poof* there...
26. Play cards with him. Tell him he has no poker-face and how does he expect to rule supreme without one?
27. Let off party-poppers in his face whenever the urge strikes you.
28. 'Did you even HAVE a girlfriend? Like, ever?'
29. Get a pair of finger puppets closely resembling himself and Harry Potter. Re-enact all of Harry's victories over him in a spectacularly childish way. Be sure to give them both squeaky voices.
30. Anytime he enters any room, insist on entering first and announcing him grandly.
30 ways to annoy Voldemort?
31. Send Harry Potter a Christmas's card.
Reply:lol i like those
Reply:LOL those were hilarious!
Reply:hilarious! love number 24 and 29. too funny.
Reply:Haha interesting
There are a couple of good ones in there
Reply:haha number 19
Reply:hahaha those were funny my favorite was number 22 lol =)
Reply:those are hilarious
Reply:Dress up like him.
And number 13 is funny.
Reply:funny. ask him if he would like to get a nose job.
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2. Laugh at him.
3. Wake him up by singing Beach Boys songs in his ear. 'Round, round, get around, I get around...'
4. Knit him things. Really hideous things.
5. Give him kangaroo-ears for a month.
6. Smile during Death Eater meetings and say you taught him everything he knows.
7. Chew bubblegum all the time. Should he address you, your only response will be a series of huge bubbles in quick succession, the last of which will burst everywhere and make a mess.
8. Dance the Funky Chicken.
9. Ask him when was the last time he took a bath.
10. Pat him on the head and give him flowers when his plans are foiled yet again.
11. If you ever need to say 'Like taking candy from a baby', be sure to add 'Of course, SOME of us might find that harder than others.' Stare pointedly at him.
12. Play 'knock-%26amp;-run' at his bedchamber door late at night.
13. Call him 'The-Man-Who-Let-the-Boy-Live.'
14. Ask why the Dark Mark couldn't look like something 'more socially acceptable?'
15. Insist that you have met chunks of cheese with more cunning plans than his.
16. Pinch him. Make sure he squeals.
17. Be cheerful.
18. When he tries to impress you with his powers, say 'Awwwww, lookit. Voldie's got a twiggle!'
19. Try to teach him to play a mouth organ.
20. Roll your eyes during plotting sessions and say things under your breath like 'You're the boss, boss' or 'It's your funeral.'
21. Greet him in the mornings with a sarcastic 'My sir, you look particularly menacing today.'
22. Taunt him about his middle name. 'Marvolo? What's that - a washing detergent?'
23. Keep a 'good-behaviour chart'. Award points and give out gold stars.
24. Magic-marker Potter-style glasses on him while he sleeps.
25. Apparate into and out of his room rapidly. Do this non-stop for an hour. *poof* there *poof* gone *poof* there...
26. Play cards with him. Tell him he has no poker-face and how does he expect to rule supreme without one?
27. Let off party-poppers in his face whenever the urge strikes you.
28. 'Did you even HAVE a girlfriend? Like, ever?'
29. Get a pair of finger puppets closely resembling himself and Harry Potter. Re-enact all of Harry's victories over him in a spectacularly childish way. Be sure to give them both squeaky voices.
30. Anytime he enters any room, insist on entering first and announcing him grandly.
30 ways to annoy Voldemort?
31. Send Harry Potter a Christmas's card.
Reply:lol i like those
Reply:LOL those were hilarious!
Reply:hilarious! love number 24 and 29. too funny.
Reply:Haha interesting
There are a couple of good ones in there
Reply:haha number 19
Reply:hahaha those were funny my favorite was number 22 lol =)
Reply:those are hilarious
Reply:Dress up like him.
And number 13 is funny.
Reply:funny. ask him if he would like to get a nose job.
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Have you ever been to a cemetary?
Not for a funeral, but like did you even actually go there to visit someone who passed away? I went there today, for the first time in my life and saw my grandparents and other relatives. Many graves were all dirty, and the flowers were all dead and stuff, you could tell that no one was visiting them. It breaks my heart to see this! so i was just wondering, who here actualy goes and visits?
Have you ever been to a cemetary?
Yes I have been to some before. When I was younger my dad used to take me sometimes to just walk around and pay a visit to the dead, which is sad but nice at the same time because they are being visited (by strangers) but everybody deserves to get attention, wether its to help take out the old flowers or remove dust, I mean anythign helps. = )
Reply:i don't, only because i am firm believer that standing on a grassy lawn with a tombstone under your feet is a bit of a waste of time. once one is gone, they are gone. i understand the paying our respects side of it, but in reading what you wrote, the area was not clean, and visiting only made you sad. why subject yourself to that???
Reply:Yes. and when I clean off my loved one's grave I sometimes clean off others close by that look neglected.
Reply:I do a lot since my grandma died in August, before that I went every once in a while. You're right about people not visiting. My other grandparents' headstone was being overtaken by this huge shrub so we called the cemetery to have it removed. Turns out there were 2 headstones underneath the shrub that you couldn't even see. Two people forgotten like that.
Reply:no i never have, I actually, and this may bother alot of people, I actually think that cemetarys are a waste of space. Day by day our world is seeming to get smaller.
It's not like they can say "okay these bodies are 100 years old we can get rid of them now" to make room for new ones. I think people should be cremated, unless they really really really wanted to be buried. Because your right, they often get neglected.
Reply:kinda, i say that because i lost my mom to cancer 6 yrs ago and she was creamated so theres not really a grave to go visit but i made a cross out of sheet metal and put it somewhere special and thats where i spread some of her ashes so i call that spot my lil cemetary.
Reply:I have to take flowers to a family friend because he never married and had no kids. His sisters don't live in the state so if I don't go nobody will.
Reply:Every family need to the graves of their family. We do clean up every few months. We even do this all the cemetery lot that are out of state.
Reply:I don't think that it is sad - the living move on. I domn't suppose the dead would want their relatives going to loads of trouble as that is usually indicative of someone who is stuck in the past.
Reply:Yes I have been to a cemetary to visit my grandpa who passed away about a year ago.
Reply:I have never visited a loved one's gravesite, but I have wandered through cemetaries when I lived on the East Coast. There was a lot of history in them, and it interested me to see when people died and how close together, etc. Also, Tom Thumb was buried in a cemetary in Bridgeport, CT, where I used to live, and they had a life sized statue of him over his grave. It was very interesting. However, I wouldn't go to pay my respects to loved ones. I don't believe they are where their body or ashes were buried, but in Heaven. So I can remember them and pray for them anywhere.
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Have you ever been to a cemetary?
Yes I have been to some before. When I was younger my dad used to take me sometimes to just walk around and pay a visit to the dead, which is sad but nice at the same time because they are being visited (by strangers) but everybody deserves to get attention, wether its to help take out the old flowers or remove dust, I mean anythign helps. = )
Reply:i don't, only because i am firm believer that standing on a grassy lawn with a tombstone under your feet is a bit of a waste of time. once one is gone, they are gone. i understand the paying our respects side of it, but in reading what you wrote, the area was not clean, and visiting only made you sad. why subject yourself to that???
Reply:Yes. and when I clean off my loved one's grave I sometimes clean off others close by that look neglected.
Reply:I do a lot since my grandma died in August, before that I went every once in a while. You're right about people not visiting. My other grandparents' headstone was being overtaken by this huge shrub so we called the cemetery to have it removed. Turns out there were 2 headstones underneath the shrub that you couldn't even see. Two people forgotten like that.
Reply:no i never have, I actually, and this may bother alot of people, I actually think that cemetarys are a waste of space. Day by day our world is seeming to get smaller.
It's not like they can say "okay these bodies are 100 years old we can get rid of them now" to make room for new ones. I think people should be cremated, unless they really really really wanted to be buried. Because your right, they often get neglected.
Reply:kinda, i say that because i lost my mom to cancer 6 yrs ago and she was creamated so theres not really a grave to go visit but i made a cross out of sheet metal and put it somewhere special and thats where i spread some of her ashes so i call that spot my lil cemetary.
Reply:I have to take flowers to a family friend because he never married and had no kids. His sisters don't live in the state so if I don't go nobody will.
Reply:Every family need to the graves of their family. We do clean up every few months. We even do this all the cemetery lot that are out of state.
Reply:I don't think that it is sad - the living move on. I domn't suppose the dead would want their relatives going to loads of trouble as that is usually indicative of someone who is stuck in the past.
Reply:Yes I have been to a cemetary to visit my grandpa who passed away about a year ago.
Reply:I have never visited a loved one's gravesite, but I have wandered through cemetaries when I lived on the East Coast. There was a lot of history in them, and it interested me to see when people died and how close together, etc. Also, Tom Thumb was buried in a cemetary in Bridgeport, CT, where I used to live, and they had a life sized statue of him over his grave. It was very interesting. However, I wouldn't go to pay my respects to loved ones. I don't believe they are where their body or ashes were buried, but in Heaven. So I can remember them and pray for them anywhere.
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In Memory of the Mother?
Well my Teachers mother died this past week and he had to go to louisiana to her funeral and he has been gone for 3 days now.. he is due back to school on this wednesday.. now all of us as students love this guy and hes one of the coolest teachers we have had.. and we want to do something for him when he gets back to make him happy.. so does anyone have suggestions on what we could do to honor his mother who has passed? any suggestions that we could do would help im trying to think im thinkin flowers or a card but i wanna do something that would be really special for him.. any ideas help thx guys
In Memory of the Mother?
Yes, pick him out a really nice card and have the class sign it. A small plant, maybe something easy to care for like ivy would be nice too. I'm sure your teacher will appreciate it.
Reply:A card signed by all the students is a great gesture.
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In Memory of the Mother?
Yes, pick him out a really nice card and have the class sign it. A small plant, maybe something easy to care for like ivy would be nice too. I'm sure your teacher will appreciate it.
Reply:A card signed by all the students is a great gesture.
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