Monday, August 3, 2009

How can I preserve Rose Petals for use at a wedding for a flower girl to throw?

These roses were from a funeral today and someone would like to preserve the petals for use in about a month for their flower girl to throw.

How can I preserve Rose Petals for use at a wedding for a flower girl to throw?
You can preserve them in a flower preservative that dries out the moisture.This product is called 'silica gel desiccant', and it is available in larger craft stores. The flowers will loose some of their color and become very fragile.There will be nothing left after they are walked on. Someone mentioned putting them in a glass bowl around a votive candle. You could place it on the table where you have your guest book. The petals would still be at the ceremony, but wouldn't be destroyed.
Reply:I have many dried rose petals from roses my husband has given me. All you have to do is separate the roses and put them in a fairly dry place. In about two weeks they will be dry enough to pull the petals off. I put mine in a bowl with a candle holder in the middle. Some of the rose petals are over 10 years old, and they are fine.
Reply:the best thing to do would be to either press them in a book and keep it there or pile them up and keep them in a water-filled vase.
Reply:PUT THEM IN THE FREEZER YOU DOPE!!(PUT PLASTIC WRAP OVER THE BOWL)!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


DONT PUT THEM IN A BOOK BECAUSE WHEN YOU TAKE THEM OUT THEY WILL TURN TO DUST!!!!
Reply:freeze them maybe be put them in water and then freeze them . pressing them in a book is usually a good idea to preserve flowers but only if you want them dried. that's kinda tough. I've never tried to save flowers for that long with out pressing them. good luck.



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O me readcan you explain this ting to me and make it clear as possible?

Push grows for Diana statue in Paris


Some fans say permanent memorial should be erected in city of her death


The Associated Press


Updated: 6:43 a.m. PT Aug 30, 2007


PARIS - At a golden statue of a flickering flame, fans of Princess Diana pay homage to her in Paris, leaving behind poems and prayers even now, 10 years after she died nearby.





A French child’s collage proclaims her “unforgettable.” An Italian fan scrawls, “I still love you.”





But contrary to popular belief, the statue wasn’t built for Diana; it was merely appropriated by her fans.





With the 10th anniversary of her death on Friday, a few fans say it’s time she had a Paris monument in her honor — something permanent, unlike the memorabilia swept away regularly by trash collectors — and they have begun a fundraising drive.





‘Shocking and flagrant’


Dominique de Fontenay says he thinks about Diana every day as he passes through the Pont d’Alma traffic tunnel where she died in a car crash, and he is always struck by the lack of a monument.





“That seems shocking and flagrant, given Diana’s notoriety and the love that most people all over the world felt for her,” said de Fontenay, a 34-year-old event planner who conceived the project.





De Fontenay teamed up with a jeweler and sculptor, Xavier de Fraissinette, who sketched out ideas for a bronze statue of a suit-clad Diana reaching out to a small child holding a bouquet.





“The hardest thing will be getting her expression, her smile, her face right,” said de Fraissinette, who designed a sculpture for the Lyon, France, meeting of the Group of Seven industrialized nations in 1996. “It must not be a mortuary monument, she must be natural.”





Raising money, slowly


After a few mentions in the local press, about 150 people have donated a total of $9,500, the two said. Building the statue will require $240,000, said de Fontenay, a Diana fan who remembers joining up with crowds to mourn the princess after the Aug. 31, 1997, crash that killed her, her boyfriend Dodi Fayed and their chauffeur, Henri Paul.





“I think everyone on the planet who had a heart was depressed that day, or at least filled with a great sadness,” said de Fontenay, who named his cat “Princess” in Diana’s honor.





The plans by de Fontenay and de Fraissinette are in the early stages and do not have approval from Paris City Hall, where the press office said officials were not aware of their campaign. The process could be long, and they will need approval from the city council.





De facto memorial


For now, the torch statue near the traffic tunnel remains the de facto memorial. A replica of the Statue of Liberty’s torch, it was donated in 1987 by the International Herald Tribune newspaper as a symbol of French-American friendship.





Ten years later, mourners turned the torch into a Diana shrine, which seemed fitting because Elton John sang “Candle in the Wind” at her funeral in London’s Westminster Abbey.





On any given afternoon, dozens of tourists crowd around the torch, snapping pictures and leaving behind cellophane-wrapped roses. After posing for a snapshot, 29-year-old Arijit Ray of London said he wished de Fontenay and de Fraissinette luck.








“There should be a statue,” he said.





De Fontenay already has a spot picked out — a grassy garden right above the tunnel where the crash took place.





“It’s all ready. There are flowers. All that’s missing is Diana,” he said.








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O me readcan you explain this ting to me and make it clear as possible?
So basically, the article is talking about this torch statue in France near where Diana died, that people usually associate with her and go to to pay tribute to her. However its really "a replica of the Statue of Liberty’s torch, [which was] was donated in 1987 by the International Herald Tribune newspaper as a symbol of French-American friendship." Apparently people confuse it to be hers because of Elton John's tribute to her, the song "candle in the wind".





So there are a bunch of people, led by this man, Dominique de Fontenay, who want to pay artist Xavier de Fraissinettea lot of money ($240,000) to build a statue of Diana reaching out to a child with a bouquet of flowers, so people can really have a place to go and honor her life. So far, about 150 people have raised $9,500, but want more money.





If you're having problems with translating the article or because you're in the process of learning English, tell me and I'll help however I can.
Reply:I don't understand what you don't understand, so I can't explain it. It seems perfectly clear to me, even if you don't agree with it. What exactly is it that you want to know?
Reply:why was she so important? is a better question
Reply:What's not to understand? A lot of people still remember her fondly, and she died in their country, so they want a monument.



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How often to visit mom's grave site?

I feel really bad, I haven't been to my mom's gravesite since her funeral. I don't think she is really there and haven't wanted to make the 90 minute trip. I feel like all I need to do is to talk to her from wherever I am. I will obviously go on her birthday and Mothers Day, but I'm wondering how others feel about how often I should go "spend time with her". I really don't think that she is laying there in that spot and not able to connect with me from wherever I am but I also don't want to "ignore" her grave site as far as flowers, etc, it's just that I live 90 minutes away and can't get there every weekend.

How often to visit mom's grave site?
Monthly. Set aside a weekend for it. Like the third Saturday of every month or something.
Reply:dont feel bad...it is some distance.....i am sure you can still talk to her from where you are....her body may be buried but i am sure she is everywhere with you........maybe you should pay a visit soon then as you said on her b'day and mothers day ect.....
Reply:Go once a year, every year, on Mother's Day.


Her birthday can be optional...


depending on how you feel at the time.
Reply:as often as u need 2 or want 2
Reply:It sounds like you have a healthy feeling about death. What you are struggling with is what you look like to others. Trust your gut feelings and visit when you feel it is right to you. Sometimes it is best to rely on the happy memories that linger in our minds
Reply:hullo


well,that depends on your way of understanding death,there is no general rule on that from mental health point of view,you can visit your mothers grave as much as you can and when ever you feels that,there is no obligation on that .


you do not have to feel guilty about that,you are doing well.





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Reply:My mom died several over ten years ago. It's okay that you haven't been there since the funeral. I went to my mom's grave a month or so after the funeral and they hadn't even put the gravestone in yet. So, there is no rush. It's a good idea to go on the first anniversary of her death and bring some other relatives with you on that day. You shouldn't feel obligated to go to the grave a certain amount of times. I go when I need to feel comfort or when I feel the grave is being neglected and her name is being covered by overgrown grass. Then I will weed the grass myself. This is usually once or twice a year, maybe on mothers day or my mom's birthday or around Christmas time when I feel down. Some years are more, some are less. I suggest you buy some artificial flowers or a Christmas wreath in the fall this year and then you won't feel the need to visit as often, knowing the grave looks good.
Reply:If it's only 90 miles away, I would go every weekend, particularly if you want to talk to her. My mom's is over 2,000 miles away.
Reply:Don't feel really bad . Go to visit the grave of a close friend when you feel you are being urged to do so . When you visit realize it is for your learning. Try to see what you are to learn or someone to meet. Be this way with the other side of life and you will feel more in tune and not be grieving as much. I try to ask my grandfathers to tell me yes or no to all my questions. It is makes my life more successful.
Reply:i completely understand how you feel. but my dads grave is right down the road... i just cant bring myself to go there. i also believe that she can hear you from where ever you are. i would not feel bad for not going all the time, she knows you love her. i know my dad loves me and wouldnt want me to spend my time worrying about a patch of grass and whether or not it has flowers on it. dont feel bad if you dont make it there as much as u think u should, she knows if you are thinking about her. you dont have to be there for her to know that.
Reply:You have to do what feels right for you. No one person can tell you what is right and what isn't and no person can tell you your a bad person for not going. You are exactally right in saying you conect with her in other places. You know you moms in heaven and you don't have to go to her grave to talk to her. A grave site is simply just a symbol.
Reply:Annually. I am a Japanese kid living in America, but I visit my grandparents' graves annually at Japan (kinda keep the grave a little neat and clean each time I go there as to show some respect towards them). And to let you know, your mother is not bored; All people who have passed away have many things to do in their afterlives. Don't worry about leaving your mother alone. Maybe she needs some privacy. : )
Reply:Personally,I think your doing the right thing...you go on holidays... thats a pluse,you think about her in your thoughts and spirit,you love her...you sound like your a hard worker...she's probably looking down at you right now and telling herself, what a good daughter she raised. Your doing good,kept it up...Chris
Reply:There isn't any 'right' answer to this. You'll have to decide for yourself when and how to remember her. She's your mom, she'll understand.
Reply:There are no hard and fast rules for visiting gravesites ... while one person will go once a week, another person will go once per year. Just go when you need to go (and only you will know when and how often this is).





Of course it is important to spend time with your mother, but it is also important to not dwell on the past ... you will carry on with your own life. Consider yourself lucky to have your mother so close to you ... my mother's (and father's) ashes are scattered about four hours from here and, trust me, I can't get out there every weekend, even if I wanted to.
Reply:i have the same situation with my father who died 5 years ago. When i have gone to his gravesight i just dont feel him there. and i sure hope he is not there anymore dont feel guilty you know everyone has there own way of dealing with these things. it has nothing to do with how much you loved her when she was here
Reply:She's with you every day. You can't physically see her, although she may leave little signs that she's there. If she were alive, what would she tell you about visiting her grave after her death? That might help you know the answer to your question. You don't have to feel guilty I suspect she wouldn't want that either. Just live your life in a manner that would have made her proud and know she's with you every day. Your guardian angel now. Best wishes to you.



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Should she have been allowed to have an abortion or should she be a criminal?

My sister was five months pregnant when the doctors told her the placenta had torn and embryonic fluid was seeping out of the sack. The doctors told her the baby wouldn’t survive and recommended an abortion, but she refused give up on something she wanted so badly. She laid flat on her back for two months in hopes of saving her son. In the seventh month, the doctors told her the baby’s lungs hadn’t developed and there was no chance the baby would ever draw his first breath outside of the womb. The doctors induced labor to expel the fetus from the womb. Because he had no lungs, the baby never drew his first breath. We had a funeral and there’s a tiny tombstone in the family cemetery beside of my grandfather’s tombstone for Dustin. We still go there, put flowers on his grave and cry over the loss of a child which was never born. As long as he was in her womb, he was alive; he moved, he had a heart beat, and she loved him as much as any mother could love a child.

Should she have been allowed to have an abortion or should she be a criminal?
It Should be her choice. no one is responsible for anyone Else's soul though the Anti Abortionist , are so sure they got a Handel on what God thinks. I think they should give God credit, for being able to talk to others also. He is a Mighty God and need no one to Criticize for him. The spirit comes with the Breath of Air God Breaths in. who gained from the suffering that was done here?
Reply:I'm not exactly sure how she is a criminal. From your explanation, it sounds as if she was encouraged to abort the baby. She tried to save him and carry him to term, but it just wasn't feasible. It doesn't sound like she did anything wrong.
Reply:Your story has little or nothing to do with the issue of abortion.Even right to lifers respect that if the fetus is nonviable or if the mothers life is in danger abortions is right.
Reply:u cant blame her for trying to hold on to some hope there are so many stories of how the doctors were wrong and the baby was fine...miricals do happen to other people..it wouldnt have made it any easier if she had, had an abortion at an early stage u all still knew it was there.. sometimes life doesnt always go the way it should... sometimes other peoples desisions arnt what other people think they should be...she did what was right for her at the time and maternal instinct told her to hold on to hop...hey at times if we dont hols on to hope what much else have we got... take it easy on her weather u believe in god or not personally i dont but he isnt going to judge her for holding on to a baby that u knew was never gonna be...
Reply:There is no way she should be a criminal. It is hard when that happens. My mother in law had a still born baby and she regretted making the decision to carry it for as long as she could because it was more heartache. It's sad to say that no matter when he would have been born he would have been deceased. Sometimes it's easier to do it that way. I realise how devastating it can be but it's just nature (hate it or not). My sympathies to all though - it is so sad.
Reply:shoud've gotten an abortion
Reply:abortion is indeed murder, and i sympathize with you and your family. that is a tragic story. your sister had the right idea in trying to save a life, and there's nothing more she could have done. you and your family are good people.



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PLEASEEEE! HELP!!! I BEG OF YOu!!!!!?

I'm moving and I have a GIANT tank with to fish and I put hem in a small tank then late at night one of my fish was the the bottom of the tank hardly alive I stayed with SAM all night I fell asleep in the chair looked up and.. SAM was ..dead. the oher one was happy as ever or normal just seemed more since he's lonely . the later that day he was sick and before I could start crying Reme died. We made a giant grave with flowers and shiny rocks since I had them for 2 years. My little brother thought that Reme killed SAM then felt guilty so Reme killed himself. So he wasn't at the funeral. Please help why do you think SAM and Reme died!! PLEASEEEEE HHHHHHHHHHEEEEEELLLLPPPP!

PLEASEEEE! HELP!!! I BEG OF YOu!!!!!?
it was just there time to go...when its there time its just there time...theres nothing you can do =/





sorry.
Reply:Kids are dying of starvation all over the world. Get a life. Sheesh.
Reply:tank shock, nitrogen levels, lack of sufficient oxygen





various reasons





too bad, but we all have to deal with learning about death eventually,





i had so parents come in to my pet store who had told their kids we were boarding their red betta for them while they were on vacation, it had died just before they left so they came in to buy one just like it and thus keeping the kids in the dark for a few more years, and asked me to play along, i obliged and charged "room and board" for their fishy
Reply:depending on size, they might not have had enough room. and shock is a big killer of fish like the pp said
Reply:The ecosystem in your was not equalizes, you probably had a build up of nitrates in your tank. Most likely they went into shock over being in a smaller tank, before you put them in you should have added some water from their old tank to reestablish the ecosystem in the water.
Reply:Fish die from shock if they go from having lots of free area to suddenly having not as much area (smaller tank)
Reply:if you didn't use the same water from their big tank, they likely died of shock.


Very sorry
Reply:Its a fish, please, come on now. I mean I know it sucks that it died, I love my fishys too but its still just a fish.
Reply:I need more info:





What kind of fish?


What size?


Salt or fresh water?


How long were they in the small tank?


How long has it been since you moved?


Did anything change?


What do you feed?





Let me know...
Reply:I am sorry for your lose. I know you are sad over this, and I hope you feel better soon.





To answer your questions - I have to ask, Was the water the same temperature in the small tank as that of the large tank?





The smaller tank didn't have as much oxygen in the water for the two fish? I don't know, did the tanks have pumps running?





The shock of being moved could have been too much for them. And, fish are like people and other pets, they don't live forever. Remember the good times, and get more fish friends soon. SAM and REME want you to, they don't want you to be unhappy.





Some people think that our pets die in place of their owners, that something bad was going to happen to you, your fish took your place in heaven so that you can live. Your fish love you, and always will.
Reply:First of all, fish die randomly all the time...





Second of all, HOW COULD YOU TELL WHEN A FISH IS HAPPY? Does it smile at you...???








3rd, no one knows since none of us knew either one of the fish..sorry, i dont spend much time in the tank.
Reply:They probably ran out of oxygen and were very stressed out from the move.





I am so sorry. I would be crushed if my fish all died.





List the breed of the fish so we can tell if they could have killed each other.



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Whats this song.?

I can not for the life of me remember any of the lyrics but its by a guy and its about how his firend just lost his wife and hes sing the song on his way home from the funeral and he say hes not going to stay out so late any more and he going to bring her flowers and show his wife how much he lovers here becasue she could be gone tommorow.

Whats this song.?
Phil Vassar - Last Day Of My Life





I just left Bobby's house:


The service was today.


Got me thinkin' about how fragile life is,


As I drove away.


You know, Amy was his only love:


In a moment she was gone, long gone.


It could have been me or you.


Oh, baby, there's no time to lose.





So I'm gonna bring home a dozen roses,


An' pour us a glass of wine.


An' I'm gonna put on a little music,


An' turn down the lights.


An' I'm gonna wrap my arms around you,





An' rock you all through the night,


An' I'm gonna love you,


Like it's the last day of my life.





I drive off when the sun comes up:


I get back when it's gone down.


There's so much I wanna do with you,


But I can't be around.


Whoa, time has been just like a thief,


It's stolen too much from us,


So once it's gone we can't make it up,


So tonight, let's get back in touch.





I'm gonna bring home a dozen roses,


An' pour us a glass of wine.


An' I'm gonna put on a little music,


An' turn down the lights.


[these lyrics are found on http://www.songlyrics.com]


An' I'm gonna wrap my arms around you,


An' rock you all through the night,


An' I'm gonna love you,


Like it's the last day of my...





Life is a rainbow, it's a spring snow,


It's the mornin' dew.


An' I don't wanna waste another minute,


Without you.





So I'm gonna bring home a dozen roses,


An' pour us a glass of wine.


An' I'm gonna put on a little music,


An' turn down the lights.


An' I'm gonna wrap my arms around you,


An' rock you all through the night,


An' I'm gonna love you,


Like it's the last day of my life.


I'm gonna love you,


Like it's the last day of my life.


Oh, oh.
Reply:Phil Vasser...I think its called "Last Day of My Life" great song..
Reply:I'm agreeing with M J...I have no idea what your talking about either...it must be a brand new song.
Reply:Great song. Phil Vassar is an incredible songwriter and musician. His live shows are full of energy too. One of my favorite artists. Here is the video to 'Last Day of My Life.'





http://youtube.com/watch?v=gTyY9Z7xfzo
Reply:i think the song your talking about is "last day of my life" by Phil Vassar.
Reply:I know %26amp; love country and I have no idea....call your local radio station see if they know...



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30 ways to annoy Voldemort?

1. Ask him why he 'doesn't have such a cool scar?'





2. Laugh at him.





3. Wake him up by singing Beach Boys songs in his ear. 'Round, round, get around, I get around...'





4. Knit him things. Really hideous things.





5. Give him kangaroo-ears for a month.





6. Smile during Death Eater meetings and say you taught him everything he knows.





7. Chew bubblegum all the time. Should he address you, your only response will be a series of huge bubbles in quick succession, the last of which will burst everywhere and make a mess.





8. Dance the Funky Chicken.





9. Ask him when was the last time he took a bath.





10. Pat him on the head and give him flowers when his plans are foiled yet again.





11. If you ever need to say 'Like taking candy from a baby', be sure to add 'Of course, SOME of us might find that harder than others.' Stare pointedly at him.





12. Play 'knock-%26amp;-run' at his bedchamber door late at night.





13. Call him 'The-Man-Who-Let-the-Boy-Live.'





14. Ask why the Dark Mark couldn't look like something 'more socially acceptable?'





15. Insist that you have met chunks of cheese with more cunning plans than his.





16. Pinch him. Make sure he squeals.





17. Be cheerful.





18. When he tries to impress you with his powers, say 'Awwwww, lookit. Voldie's got a twiggle!'





19. Try to teach him to play a mouth organ.





20. Roll your eyes during plotting sessions and say things under your breath like 'You're the boss, boss' or 'It's your funeral.'





21. Greet him in the mornings with a sarcastic 'My sir, you look particularly menacing today.'





22. Taunt him about his middle name. 'Marvolo? What's that - a washing detergent?'





23. Keep a 'good-behaviour chart'. Award points and give out gold stars.





24. Magic-marker Potter-style glasses on him while he sleeps.





25. Apparate into and out of his room rapidly. Do this non-stop for an hour. *poof* there *poof* gone *poof* there...





26. Play cards with him. Tell him he has no poker-face and how does he expect to rule supreme without one?





27. Let off party-poppers in his face whenever the urge strikes you.





28. 'Did you even HAVE a girlfriend? Like, ever?'





29. Get a pair of finger puppets closely resembling himself and Harry Potter. Re-enact all of Harry's victories over him in a spectacularly childish way. Be sure to give them both squeaky voices.





30. Anytime he enters any room, insist on entering first and announcing him grandly.

30 ways to annoy Voldemort?
31. Send Harry Potter a Christmas's card.
Reply:lol i like those
Reply:LOL those were hilarious!
Reply:hilarious! love number 24 and 29. too funny.
Reply:Haha interesting





There are a couple of good ones in there
Reply:haha number 19
Reply:hahaha those were funny my favorite was number 22 lol =)
Reply:those are hilarious
Reply:Dress up like him.





And number 13 is funny.
Reply:funny. ask him if he would like to get a nose job.



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Have you ever been to a cemetary?

Not for a funeral, but like did you even actually go there to visit someone who passed away? I went there today, for the first time in my life and saw my grandparents and other relatives. Many graves were all dirty, and the flowers were all dead and stuff, you could tell that no one was visiting them. It breaks my heart to see this! so i was just wondering, who here actualy goes and visits?

Have you ever been to a cemetary?
Yes I have been to some before. When I was younger my dad used to take me sometimes to just walk around and pay a visit to the dead, which is sad but nice at the same time because they are being visited (by strangers) but everybody deserves to get attention, wether its to help take out the old flowers or remove dust, I mean anythign helps. = )
Reply:i don't, only because i am firm believer that standing on a grassy lawn with a tombstone under your feet is a bit of a waste of time. once one is gone, they are gone. i understand the paying our respects side of it, but in reading what you wrote, the area was not clean, and visiting only made you sad. why subject yourself to that???
Reply:Yes. and when I clean off my loved one's grave I sometimes clean off others close by that look neglected.
Reply:I do a lot since my grandma died in August, before that I went every once in a while. You're right about people not visiting. My other grandparents' headstone was being overtaken by this huge shrub so we called the cemetery to have it removed. Turns out there were 2 headstones underneath the shrub that you couldn't even see. Two people forgotten like that.
Reply:no i never have, I actually, and this may bother alot of people, I actually think that cemetarys are a waste of space. Day by day our world is seeming to get smaller.


It's not like they can say "okay these bodies are 100 years old we can get rid of them now" to make room for new ones. I think people should be cremated, unless they really really really wanted to be buried. Because your right, they often get neglected.
Reply:kinda, i say that because i lost my mom to cancer 6 yrs ago and she was creamated so theres not really a grave to go visit but i made a cross out of sheet metal and put it somewhere special and thats where i spread some of her ashes so i call that spot my lil cemetary.
Reply:I have to take flowers to a family friend because he never married and had no kids. His sisters don't live in the state so if I don't go nobody will.
Reply:Every family need to the graves of their family. We do clean up every few months. We even do this all the cemetery lot that are out of state.
Reply:I don't think that it is sad - the living move on. I domn't suppose the dead would want their relatives going to loads of trouble as that is usually indicative of someone who is stuck in the past.
Reply:Yes I have been to a cemetary to visit my grandpa who passed away about a year ago.
Reply:I have never visited a loved one's gravesite, but I have wandered through cemetaries when I lived on the East Coast. There was a lot of history in them, and it interested me to see when people died and how close together, etc. Also, Tom Thumb was buried in a cemetary in Bridgeport, CT, where I used to live, and they had a life sized statue of him over his grave. It was very interesting. However, I wouldn't go to pay my respects to loved ones. I don't believe they are where their body or ashes were buried, but in Heaven. So I can remember them and pray for them anywhere.



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In Memory of the Mother?

Well my Teachers mother died this past week and he had to go to louisiana to her funeral and he has been gone for 3 days now.. he is due back to school on this wednesday.. now all of us as students love this guy and hes one of the coolest teachers we have had.. and we want to do something for him when he gets back to make him happy.. so does anyone have suggestions on what we could do to honor his mother who has passed? any suggestions that we could do would help im trying to think im thinkin flowers or a card but i wanna do something that would be really special for him.. any ideas help thx guys

In Memory of the Mother?
Yes, pick him out a really nice card and have the class sign it. A small plant, maybe something easy to care for like ivy would be nice too. I'm sure your teacher will appreciate it.
Reply:A card signed by all the students is a great gesture.



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Funereal advice please?

what should i know before going to a funeral of someones I did not know very well but do wish to pay my last respects and offer condolonce to widow. Other than dressing conservatively. Bring flowers ? Stay in the back and shut up ? See the widow and then sit down and shut up ?

Funereal advice please?
You don't need to bring anything to the funeral, call the funeral home or church ahead of time and find out if the family is requesting donations to anything and make a contribution if you wish. Most likely there will be a guest book at the funeral for you to sign. The widow isn't going to remember who all attended but later on she will look through the book. You could send her a sympathy card in the mail, that would also be a really nice gesture, even though you don't know her, she would really like to see the impact her husband had on other people. If you would like to say something to her personally, it would be fine, just pick an appropriate opportunity. I've been to funerals where the family is lined up waiting for people to give their condolences and I've been to others where people gathered after to speak with the family. It totally depends on the situation, just be considerate of the family.
Reply:Usually there is a wake at the funeral home during the day and or evening before the funeral. This is usually when the family of the deceased will have a receiving line to greet the people who have come to wish their condolences to the family of the deceased. It is considered polite to sign the guest book at the wake, wait in line and let the family know that you are deeply sorry for their loss and let them know who you are and how you knew the deceased. I always bring a card and or Mass card with me and after I talk to the family I leave the cards on the card pedestal/table next to the deceased. I then kneel and say a prayer for the deceased. The funeral usually takes place at a church or synagogue and this is usually not the time to talk to the family as they will be overcome with their loss.
Reply:If you knew the family, acknowledge the members of the family you know, then sit in the back. If you did not know the family, go, pay your respects and be done with it. The family is usually not going to notice everyone there anyway and probably will not question your motives for being there. If there is a reception I would advise you not to go unless you are invited. Flowers are not necessary unless you know the family or widow. Other than that, pay your respects.
Reply:Dress nicely, approach the widow respectfully, say I am sorry for your loss, maybe touch her hand or forearm while you say this, then go sit down and be quiet and be sure your cell phone is off....Find out from the obituary if they are accepting memorials for a charity or for kids or something and use teh money that you would spend on flowers for that.
Reply:You don't need to bring anything. You don't have to hide in the back. Just sit in the middle.
Reply:If you did not know the deceased very well, then by all means go to the funeral and tell the widow you are sorry for her loss. Approach her very calmly and introduce yourself and tell her your relation to the deceased (i.e. how you knew him). Most likely she will extend her hand for you to shake. If she does not, then extend your hand first. While you shake, look her kindly in the eye and say, "I am very sorry for your loss. [Name of deceased] will be greatly missed by everyone."





She will most likely thank you for your kind regards. Once she does this (or does not do this) quickly and politely move on so that other funeral guests may talk to the widow.





It is not necessary to bring flowers, but it is always a nice gesture. It is truly up to you if you want to introduce yourself to other guests you don't know well. However, keep in mind that a funeral is not a networking event. This is not the time to get into details about you, your work, your hobbies, etc.
Reply:If you didnt know them well, you dont need to bring anything. Flowers are always nice.


Just dress well, say how sorry you are to the family, and sit through it.
Reply:flowers are a waist of money, i think. when i attend a funereal i make a donation in the family's name to a cause they are close to. if the person died of a heart attack, make a donation to the American heart Association.
Reply:You got it- just show up , greet the widow, and be supportive


How I how funerals!
Reply:Tell them to get a life and stop being so sad! It's stupid.......I bet that's what you're thinking anyway! LMAO



flower

Funny or not?

On opening his new store, a man received a bouquet of flowers. He became dismayed on reading the enclosed card, that it expressed "Deepest Sympathy". While puzzling over the message, his telephone rang. It was the florist, apologizing for having sent the wrong card. "Oh, it's alright." said the storekeeper. "I'm a businessman and I understand how these things can happen." "But," added the florist, "I accidentally sent your card to a funeral party." "Well, what did it say?" ask the storekeeper. "'Congratulations on your new location'." was the reply.

Funny or not?
ho ho ho lmao very funny great1 ho ho ho.....................
Reply:funny
Reply:funny !
Reply:Very funny
Reply:Nice one
Reply:lol. this was better than your other joke... on a scale of 1-10 I'd give it a 6. It's really cute.
Reply:oh my goodness that was completly funny....... good job...
Reply:funny! oops!!
Reply:Funny! LOL
Reply:hahaha...Yes I liked it a lot :)
Reply:HA!!! I love it! Thumbs up!
Reply:I like it, quite funny.
Reply:Yes, quirky, but funny.
Reply:cute
Reply:ahh that's is so sad. but yet


funny . ........................................... still laughing,.
Reply:That is awful funny.
Reply:|Funny
Reply:hahaha.............. nice going there.............. good for you to come out with this joke
Reply:yes it funny
Reply:Very!!!!
Reply:funny
Reply:That's funny!
Reply:Quite funny, i like it.
Reply:Awww, oh my gosh. Ha ha, that is pretty funny.
Reply:no not really! Yours are usually good as well!
Reply:i like it :-)
Reply:Haha, nice one!
Reply:well i am sure the occupant of the box coudnt read it 9/10
Reply:quite funny. it makes me smile.


thanks for the joke (",)



genealogy mormon

What do you think of my poem "House of the Dead: My Home Too"?

I looked around


The sky was interesting


The moon was in the white sky and the sun was going down





I looked around


There were comforters and comfortees


I was suppose to be a comforter





I looked around like a tourist


as if the funeral-to-be was a spectacle


I was in my role of observer


and I saw my co-worker’s white face


without makeup was still quite pretty


Did her grief add to or subtract from her beauty?





I saw the mounds of dirt


some with flowers and some without


I tried not to think what it meant


what those mounds of dirt meant





The wife of the dead man fainted


I had been told that she didn’t love her husband


Then I remembered my friend telling me


the dead man took too long to die


the family prayed for his death

What do you think of my poem "House of the Dead: My Home Too"?
Well the poem itself was okay, I hope your state of mind is not in there somewhere, watch the sun come up some morning and see if that inspires you.
Reply:I think its ok just the time of day seems too off the time funerals are generally taking place. Or maybe the sun setting and the moon rising is more of an abstract thing either way im not that into poems.



acting resources

Gift for berevement counselor?

She is my therapist through Hospice bc I lost my son. Everything she does is free. The sessions,she went to the funeral home to make 3d sculptures of his hands/feet,brings me other things like scrapbook stukk,money gifts for me and the other kids,angel statue,all kinds of things. I want to give her a small gift. I have very little money. I dont want it to be too personal,just a small token. I know she does what she does bc its her job,but she has really gone out of her way. I was thinking not flowers. Any other ideas?

Gift for berevement counselor?
Wow, what special souls you both are. I'm so sorry for your loss. You are lucky to have someone like your counselor in your life and I'm sure just being able to help you is compensation enough.





She may feel uncomfortable if you spend money on her since she knows you don't have much. The best thing to do would be to find a nice card and write her a letter telling her everything you told us and more. Express how grateful you are for her comfort and support, and thank her. I'm sure she'd appreciate that from your heart much more than some trinket.





The next thing to do is "pay it forward." Ask her if you can volunteer with her or find some volunteer work that you are interested in. Your taking what she gave you and giving it to someone else with your touch added is the best form of payback.
Reply:God bless you, honey! Spread the love. Those women need you. Report It

Reply:If you don't want it to be flowers or anything too personal, how about a cookie basket or fruit basket?
Reply:First of all, I am so deeply sorry for your loss. This lady sounds like a real angel. Maybe an inexpensive angel statue. There is a line of figurines, they are called Willow Tree Angels. They are very symbolic and there are many different designs. They are very inexpensive. You can go to www.demdaco and search for willow tree. The "Guardian Angel" and " Angel of Healing" would be beautiful. God Bless and I hope this helped.
Reply:I think giving her a ceramic angel would be lovely. Or maybe a picture of your son in a picture frame. Or maybe make a CD of classical music or christian music. Or you know how you can make a calendar from your own pictures, make her a calendar. You can even make them on your own computer. Hopefully you have a color printer. Get some nice colored paper.





I hope that helps and I'm sorry to hear about your son's passing. I think she will enjoy any of these ideas.
Reply:Does she have kids too? Why not bake them a cake with their names written on them?
Reply:My thought's on that for a limited budget would be perhaps a thoughful card with a nicely written letter inside. SOmetimes that alone is more than enough.



performing arts

How did you like this?

On opening his new store, a man received a bouquet of flowers. He became dismayed on reading the enclosed card, that it expressed "Deepest Sympathy".





While puzzling over the message, his telephone rang. It was the florist, apologizing for having sent the wrong card.





"Oh, it's alright." said the storekeeper. "I'm a businessman and I understand how these things can happen."





"But," added the florist, "I accidentally sent your card to a funeral party."





"Well, what did it say?" ask the storekeeper.





"'Congratulations on your new location'." was the reply.

How did you like this?
LMAO .. ohh can you imagine the widow's reaction on that one! thanks for the laff on this friday morning! = ) have a good one!
Reply:LmAo..that's pretty funny!
Reply::)
Reply:lol, thats funny!!!!!!
Reply:funny, I would loved to have been at the funeral to see their faces
Reply:Ha! LMAO!!


Thanks for the laugh.
Reply:that is the best one ive seen for the day. i love it!





lmao.
Reply:hahaha !! good one :)
Reply:nice 1
Reply:Thats is funny
Reply:haha


he built a grave yard! so that doesnt make a shopkeeper anymore.i think hes a dread ripper!!lol
Reply:cool!!fantastic!!!really humourous!!!thanks for givin me dis joke i m gonna tell it to ma friends and if u don mind take da credit!
Reply:they probably wouldn't have read the flowers 2 sad 2


but if they would have -- hilarious!!
Reply:omg.. thats kinda sad.. (well for the ppl at the funeral)



fitness

What is your take on this sad and Disturbing Story?

Porter had reported 26-year-old Jessie Davis missing one week ago Friday after finding the young woman's bedroom in disarray, the furniture overturned and Davis' young son home alone. The 2-year-old boy, who may be the only witness to his mother's disappearance, told investigators: "Mommy was crying. Mommy broke the table. Mommy's in rug."





When Porter was asked Friday by NBC's "Today" show if she considered the father of Davis' son and unborn baby a suspect, she replied: "Yes, he's a suspect."





"I still pray that it's not him," she said. "That doesn't mean that I don't think he's a suspect, as well."





Authorities have talked with and searched the home of the father, Canton police officer Bobby Cutts Jr., although investigators have repeatedly said Cutts is not a suspect.





Cutts, 30, says he had nothing to do with Davis' disappearance. The woman's family says he is the father of both 2-year-old Blake and of Davis' unborn baby.





On Friday, some 250 volunteers lined up for a second day to help search surrounding fields and woods for any sign of Davis. She was nine months pregnant when she disappeared, with a due date of July 3. More than 1,800 volunteers had turned up Thursday to scour backyards, vacant fields and a Christmas tree farm.





Davis' sister, Whitney, said the family was not participating Friday.





"It's too stressful every time a dog comes across something," she said.





Search dogs hit on one area of freshly dug dirt Thursday more than a mile from her home in nearby Lake Township, but it turned out to be a marijuana plot, Stark County sheriff's Capt. Gary Shankle said.





"It's very frustrating, but we just can't leave any stone unturned," he said.





Porter said Friday that young Blake was keeping everyone motivated and reminding them every day of his mother, whom she described as her best friend, a woman without enemies who "always had a big smile on her face."





Blake "has periods where he just lays his head down on the couch and has this horrible look of sadness, and then the next moment he'll have this big, beautiful smile. He really is what keeps us going," she told ABC.





Volunteers searched the area around Davis' home for about 4 1/2 hours Thursday until they were stopped by heavy rain. Groups of 80 to 100 searchers covered a total area of about eight square miles, said Tim Miller, director of Texas EquuSearch, an internationally active search group that organized the volunteer effort.





"I'm hopeful we can find her alive," he said. "If not, the second best thing we can do is be back here next week for a funeral."





During the massive search Thursday, police officer Jamie Mizer led one of 14 groups while three months pregnant.





"That's kind of what's motivating me to be out here," she said.





One woman wore high heels but gave up 20 minutes later after walking through a wooded area. Another maneuvered on crutches. "I'm here for the whole thing," said Tammy Robinson, 47.





Others prayed for Davis' safe return at a nondenominational evangelical church Davis' mother attends.





At Davis' home, several bouquets of flowers had been left outside.





On Wednesday, sheriff's investigators and FBI agents carried out more than a dozen white cardboard boxes, a few brown bags and three large black plastic bags during a search of Cutts' home.





His mother, Renee Horne, told The that agents were looking for Davis' cell phone and a quilt missing from her home. She said FBI agents questioned her son twice Wednesday, and read him his Miranda rights during the second interview.





Meanwhile, the DNA of a newborn baby found about 45 miles from Davis' home was being tested to see if the infant is related to the missing woman. The testing was not expected to be finished until next week.

What is your take on this sad and Disturbing Story?
the baby said that his mommy is in the rug... she is a river or has been buried or even worst... why does it take a woman to be missing for people to come together,
Reply:I've been following this story myself. I think it's awful. It's like Lacey Peterson all over again. I don't think that they'll find her alive and I do hope that the baby that the nurse and her husband found is at least the baby.
Reply:Oh My God! That's horrible and sad! My thoughts are that the husband didn't have anything to do with it and it must have been a planned attack aiming for that woman in particular because they would have taken the son to if it was a random act of violence. Maybe an enemy of some sort. I hope they find her soon. It's terrible
Reply:Sadly, I fear the worst for this family. It seems to me that Jessie Davis is the focus - not her son or the baby girl. Whoever struggled with her in the house obviously chose to not harm the little boy. Also, if it were a case of someone wanting to steal the unborn child, I would expect there to be blood evidence at the house and perhaps even Jessie (alive or dead), minus the baby. For her to disappear with the house in disarray and her son left behind suggests to me that she was taken away forcibly and is probably now dead. Which also means that her unborn daughter is also probably dead. It is a heinous crime. My heart already hurts for her family.





I hope that I am wrong, but I doubt it. If you look at the statistics, murder rates go up dramatically for pregnant women, and the most likely killer is the unborn child's father.





I pray for her family to have some closure soon and for whoever did this to be brought to justice. It takes a special kind of sick to kill a baby, and there is no punishment too severe.



affiliate

Have you ever made a mistake like this?

On opening his new store, a man received a bouquet of flowers. He became dismayed on reading the enclosed card, that it expressed "Deepest sympathy."





While puzzling over the message, his telephone rang. It was the florist, apologizing for having sent the wrong card.





"Oh, it's alright." said the storekeeper. "I'm a businessman and I understand how these things can happen."





"But," added the florist, "I accidentally sent your card to a funeral party."





"Well, what did it say?" ask the storekeeper.





The florist read the card, "Congratulations on your new location."

Have you ever made a mistake like this?
Very good wasn't expecting that.
Reply:What a twist to that one. It is brilliant. Thanks for sharing.
Reply:lol :) thats cute
Reply:Hilarious...





Good one!
Reply:lmao thats soo funny ;)
Reply:Lol I would hate to have been the people at the funeral
Reply:Oh dear. lol
Reply:lmfao...awesome joke lol.
Reply:oops, that was good hun, pmsl
Reply:Cute! I like it :-)



super nanny

How do I help my Girlfriend?

My 16 year old girlfriend's mother has had ALS for about 3 years now. Last weekend I was told that she had gotten weak enough to the point where she could not eat, and she refused to take a feeding tube. Last Wednesday she passed away from starvation. My girlfriend is taking it extremely hard (which I don't blame her for at all). She is in the stage where she wants to be alone. I bought her a few things (a card and a stuffed bear, I felt like flowers weren't right for some reason) unannounced and she seemed to be happy by it. I tried to contact her the next day and she didn't want to talk. I frequently (not to the point of annoyance) tell her I'm here for her and try to comfort her. Does anyone else have any more advice as to what I can do to make her feel any better at all? Should I just wait it out a bit more before trying anything new if anything at all? I realize that it will improve with time, possibly not longer after the funeral. Any responses would be much obliged.

How do I help my Girlfriend?
You did the best thing by letting her know you're there. If she wants space, then yes, give it to her. She's going through a rough time, but don't completely run out of the picture, stay close by.
Reply:If she liked the unannounced card and bear, I think an unannounced visit with a long hug is in store.
Reply:Sometimes it is the most helpless feeling we can have when we feel useless to fix something! Especially when it is someone we care about. We want to help! Unfortunately time is the only answer at this point. HUGS ARE the BEST!! Just keep doing what you are doing and be patient! Grieving comes in waves which get smaller over time. Good one min bad the next 6 mons to a year sometimes and you are right it will get better with time! Be strong for her she needs you! You can do it!! You sound like you really care! Good for you!
Reply:give her time but still talk to her


she needs to know you are really there, shes gonna say she wants to be alone but i really think she loves knowing you are there


you are doing everything correct, support her, and make sure she doesn't do anything stupid from sadness





i'm so sorry that happened to her



skin disease

Death of an infant?

A coworker had his first baby girl August 5th. She was 2 1/2 months premature, but was doing great! She was breathing on her own, but was going to stay in the nicu until a couple weeks before her actual due date. On August 13 she passed away. Apparently she had a hole in her intestines and her vitals were too low to operate and she died early Monday morning. I feel so bad for my coworker and his girlfriend. This was his first baby and her 3rd. As a company we sent flowers and we're collecting money and putting it in a card for them. I feel like I should do more for them. I know there isn't anything I can say or do, but I feel like I should get them something and I can't for the life of me think of anything... They don't have any family or friends here, except for coworkers. I was thinking about a memory box or something. The funeral is today. Does anyone have any ideas???

Death of an infant?
I think what you are doing is enough for now. Just be there for them but don't be too there. I lost my son and I know everyone is different but I needed time with my husband and to be alone and it seemed like I had no time for us. Also, you don't want to give them anything too sentimental just yet. They will appreciate memories and things more after they have had time to heal and get over the initial shock. Like I said, maybe it's just me. The hospital sent me home with pictures, and the footprints, handprints, etc. I looked at them a lot and just cried. It was so hard. Maybe make a donation to a charity in the babies name. That's what my co-workers did. It meant a lot.
Reply:I think you did a great thing. That is one of the hardest things to go through! Your a great friend! Report It

Reply:A memory box is a good idea. Other than that show your support by coming to the funeral and being there if they need something.
Reply:People take the loss of a child (or any loved one) differently. Some just want to be left alone, while others want people around during this tragic time.


It is hard to say how your coworker feels, thus making it hard for you to figure out what you can do for them.


Right now, I think that you should let them know that you are going to be there for them.
Reply:JUST TURN UP AT THE FUNERAL, BE THERE FOR THEM,THAT,S ALL IT TAKES
Reply:a memory box, so that they could put the things they have from the baby in their to save.





I think any box from a craft store would do.
Reply:a memory box sounds nice. a friend of mine has her daughter the day before my son was born in the same hospital only she was 23 1/2 weeks pregnant and i was 36. i felt a conection with this baby everytime i went to go visit her in the nicu. she passed away at 2 weeks and one day old and i was there with my friend and the baby as she passed. it made me very depressed since this was both of our first child and my hormones were going crazy and i didn't think it was fair i just cried. we egot somem white balloons together and at her funeral we let them all go in the air with one pink and one yellow to represent mommy and daddy. it was beautiful. i wouuld right her name on them all
Reply:Be their friend.Buy a frame for her photo that they can have up in their home.
Reply:maybe just flowers and a shoulder for them both to cry on if they need it just send them both a personal note from you letting them know if they need anything you will be there for them
Reply:I'd just consider a really touching card with your personal (handwritten) sentiments added to it...let them know you are there for them...and consider cooking a meal for them. There isn't much else you can do but make them aware that you're there for them.
Reply:Wow - that's tough. My heart goes out to them. I think you are being a great friend. The memory box sounds like a wonderful idea. I would include a card offering your love and support. Words can make a difference! Beyond that, the only things I can think of are: making a tribute in the baby's name to a charity such as the March of Dimes, or to the hospital she was treated at; making dinner for them; or a framed verse or poem.



nanny

CAn you get these double homonyms?

If you have the wrong priest at this funeral service, how can you be sure you'll get the ___________ ____________?





The sign in the library said there was no talking________ _______.





The old miser never spends a cent. I'll bet he's got a big_______ ________.





You can fool some people by planting trees and flowers on the garbage heap, but when I drive by, my __________ _______.





I hear your friends Jill and Janet are excellent writers. In fact, I hear they're_______ _______.





That's the meanest rooster I've ever seen, always peecking at the other birds. It's really a ________ _______.





Oh my gosh thanks for the help. any answer or try will be welcomed.

CAn you get these double homonyms?
If you have the wrong priest at this funeral service, how can you be sure you'll get the right rite?





The sign in the library said there was no talking aloud allowed.





The old miser never spends a cent. I'll bet he's got a big cash cache.





You can fool some people by planting trees and flowers on the garbage heap, but when I drive by, my nose knows.





I hear your friends Jill and Janet are excellent writers. In fact, I hear they're fair fare.


(This would be better if they were good cooks.)





That's the meanest rooster I've ever seen, always pecking at the other birds. It's really a foul fowl.











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If I can think of a better pair for the writers, I'll edit, but likely someone else will have it before I do.
Reply:wrong priest= right rite


old miser= cash cache
Reply:A few quick half answers; you figure out the rest:


right


aloud


cash



Shoes

What do you think??

if tears could build a staircase and love could buils a lane i would walk right upto heaven and bring you home again.i never got to see you much but really wished i had the memorys i hold of you will always stay in my head,intill the day we meet again to make up for lost time.sleep tight.x





i have not seen my nan in 6mths before that it was a fair few years.i posted a question asking what i could say and wether i should go to the funeral.i am going but as we never had much contact because of my real dad long story but does this verse for her flowers say what i want to or does it make me sound like a hypercrite..i no i should of made more effort but familys are hard.xx

What do you think??
I'll start by saying I think that's a lovely verse to send her of with and I'm sure she understands.


I can relate to this as I lost my nan a few years ago now and although we were very close when I was a child, I lost touch as an adult as my life went down a very bad road. I love her and miss her so much and regret the time I lost. You don't sound like a hypocrite at all, sometimes life sends us down very different paths and these will sometimes pull loved ones in opposite directions.


God Blessxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx








Mac Pro what is your issue?m I hope you seriously have a good think about what you have done here, there's sarcasm, wit and this which is pure spite.
Reply:yeah it's good, go 4 it .
Reply:I think that would be a perfect message to write on the flowers, and no you do not sound like a hypocrite.


In fact you are admitting that you did not make an effort when your nan was alive and this is your way of saying sorry for that, which i think is really great of you.


I'm sure your nan would really appreciate this.


xxx
Reply:That is a beautiful tribute and I am sure many people will copy it and perhaps use it themselves in the future.





I remember your original question, in fact I replied to it.





I am very glad that you decided to go to the funeral, I think you are making a wise choice.








MacPro that is about the most insensitive posting ever (and I have made a few myself) I hope that on more mature reflection you might want to withdraw it and not intrude on someone's personal grief.








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Reply:It sounds good to me, sounds like it has come from the heart. Sometimes grief can take time to come to terms with and deal with do whats right for you. Dont worry about other people.
Reply:Really beautiful, obviously right from the heart





and Macpro I hope you have read what ascoile said.




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